How do you get someone who doesn't talk much to SPEAK? !
14 Answers to "How do you get someone who doesn't talk much to SPEAK? !"
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I have a friend that was pretty much a mute around the public. i had to watch how he interacted physically for about 3 years and then finally messaged him online one day. I said. "hello". What he said got him to reply was the fact that instead of asking him why didn't talk right away(which frustrated him), I just simply talked to him. He really just had some social issues that he can't handle.
Other times people are scared to open up and don't talk to protect themselves. This takes some patience and respect that you have to give them. You can never pressure some one who closes up their feelings.
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You might struggle with this.
I was with someone who struggled to speak with anyone other than me for many years. It was difficult to hold a conversation where the other person didn't want to take part, especially in a group of people, and I found myself making up for the persons lack of confidence. This in itself wasn't easy, because by nature I'm not the worlds 'chattiest' person. What I discovered is that you cannot change the personality of a person who is quiet by nature, and in the same way you cannot shut down the person who is loud or openly spoken either. It's something they have to do themselves to change ... and that isn't easy to do.
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Water board them. Or you can try just being around them and being patient.
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Water board sounds easier!Like (1)
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truth and love.
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That's a toughie. I guess it depends on why the person doesn't speak much. Sometimes they just like to be good listeners, and that's not at all a bad thing. If someone is simply shy, then sometimes a joke will break the ice a bit. Or asking a question about something that really interests them and being interested in what they have to say. Pressure usually isn't any good...most people will open up when the feel comfortable or 'safe'. I suppose you can expedite that by just being easygoing and letting the person know you are happy just with their company.
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Let it go. Some people just need space, and that is okay. Some people are okay not talking just to talk, but speak when they have something to say. Also, this person may not speak because someone in their past or present has made them feel like their opinion doesn't matter. Have some compassion :)
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grow a beard
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HHHHHHH Would a fake beard work?
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Careful what you wish for!
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I am shy and find it difficult to talk to new people or those I am unsure of. Smile when speaking to them, nod alone when they are talking and say things like "That's a good point" or something encouraging which will make them want to continue.
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pass a note saying hi
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Step on their foot... they say Ow every time ;)
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Find what interests them. Once they believe you're genuinely interested in discussing the subject, they probably won't shut up. You might regret it xD
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I think you're dealing with a Finnish person, and the answer is that you CAN'T.
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Posted by EarthlingWise Mar 5th, 2012 at 11:05AM
Nick a stamp from their collection.
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Reply by MissGaga Mar 5th, 2012 at 11:11AM
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