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What if you found something you thought was there, and it wasnt good stuff. The Fact is I love her dearly and I was hoping to find the same thing in there. So Now what do I do. I love her so much, I had a bad moment of insecurity, it wasnt about trust.
jhantman13 jhantman13 36-40 15 Answers May 3, 2012

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She broke your trust in the first place and now you have acted on your insecurities and broke her trust. Trust is a hard thing to get back once it is broken and it sounds like she hasn't earned yours back yet if you still felt compelled to snoop. I would find another woman that wont make you feel the need to snoop. Find someone that you can have confidence in their character, someone who will make you feel secure so you won't make this mistake again.

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Finally someone else that's not all shocked by "the invasion of privacy" if your going to be together your going to share a life together than you shouldn't need privacy in text measaging and social networking sites! I mean really? only if you have something to hide from your significant other.. Wich should NEVER be the case.

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Correction... I believe everyone deserves the respect of privacy. That being said, you shouldn't have to feel compelled to snoop in the first place. If you were dating someone with whom you had absolute confidence in their character it wouldn't even cross your mind to invade her privacy. You see what I am getting at here? She has already done something to make you question her character. Get rid of her and find someone you CAN trust :)

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I said to my bf that i couldn't care less if you went through all of my msgs, emails, Facebook msgs, phone log anything you want! Go for it because I have absolutely nothing to hide.. And if you don't want me going through yours then you must have something to hide! And he did.. Anyway did you find anything during your investigation? Lol

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Yes, I did find something that wasnt good, and we got through it. So then I checked her Facebook in hopes that she told this guy, She had a BF and was happy now leave her alone. Thats why I did it the second time. But yes the first time what I found wasnt good

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If by boring you mean faithful and loyal then hell yeah I'm boring! Lol anyway I think you should be the one trying to trust her again after what she did! That's obviously why you went through her msgs again right? I think she shouldn't have a problem with you going through her stuff.. Dont you?

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Your girlfriend would be right to never trust you again, creepy man

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If I was her you would be on the transfer list straight away !!

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No offense, but why should she ? I'm not a person who thinks being in a relationship means giving up all privacy and rights to one's own personal thoughts. Either you trust your partner or you don't, it's that simple. Looking through text messages etc, rather than asking the person directly if you have concerns could be interpreted as an attempt at being controlling. Many women would've left you.

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I agree with the other poster that says you should not need to have social websites and e mails with passwords to keep each other out if you have trust. <br />
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Married for 14 years and we have no secret e mails or social media sites that we both don't have the passwords too.

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ohh gee that is so bad and personal<br />
if it was me i would be it would be goodbye forever

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You are not ready to be in a relationship. She needs to cut you loose.

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dude, you fuukedup with her, move on to the next catch

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Say Oprah told you to do it.

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You can't. She might eventually get over it, but she'll always wonder if you'll do it again

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Sorry, but personally I could never get over that invasion of privacy. I may be able to move on from the experience, but there will always be a bit of mistrust in the back of my mind.

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I'd never trust you again if it were me. I mean, what the hell?

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