I pray. I think of my value to myself and to others. I think about how I want to be known for if I wasn't here anymore.
My wife (WildSpectrumArts) motivates me. When she is not around and busy then I think of what I want to do to make myself better and what would be something that would surprise her if I tried something different.
having hobbies and interests
in my case its magic the gathering cards
in some of my friends its minatures for wargamming ie 40k and warhammer
some women like shoes or a new dress or handbag , although a few guys im sure like new shoes or a suit
whatever makes u happy....