How do you handle your mate not wanting to spend time with you? Why should you have to be alone when you have a mate.
Been dating a 1yr. have asked him over and over to spend more time with me. I am holding down all of our bills and don't ask for anything but time. Please let me know if I am wrong to expect to be able to have some of his time.
6 Answers to "How do you handle your mate not wanting to spend time with you? Why should you have to be alone when you have a mate."
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You deserve better than that,everyone deserves true happiness and if the person you're with can't give it to you then you move along no sense in wasting time we're only here a short time make the most of it.
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You know my mind tells me to do just that. My heart is still holding on. He is a good man most of the time. I am just tired of being alone and I am in a relationship. Thanks for saying what I have been thinking. I don't want to give up, but I am thinking a lot more clearly now a days.
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Depends upon your chosen lifestyle. Beyond the general sort, are you in a relationship that intends to put you into such place where you are the one brining in the cash while he is the one enjoying it? In my case, my Master is my mate and he loves spending time with me, but as a cuckquean in training for him, I am learning that he will also spend a lot of time with many other females as well. I am only happy, at this point, as he seems very very happy. His happiness is mine, so there's not problem for us. But it's not that he doesn't want to spend time with me. It's just that there's only so much time in every day/night. He doesn't like that, either.
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He is just using you. He sounds somewhat narcissistic. He is only treating you the way you allow him to, though. So, if you are unhappy, you have choices to make changes.
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Thanks for answering. You are so correct. I allowed it thinking that if I talk to him and let him know my feelings that it would change, but it hasn't. I have just gotten tired of trying and tired of being the support for both of us and not getting anything in return. Just want him to look and talk to me like he use to.
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Maybe they are busy. Nothing to worry about.
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No one is that busy. You make time for your mate. Just like I make time for him and the things he wants to do or need me to do for him. Hell I don't like just being the teller machine. It gets more attention than I do. Relationships are give and take. Not take, take, take.
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How much time do you want him to spend with him? If he comes back and goes to bed immediate i would say you are right. But it seems to me that you are not willing to give him some space which is very important.. You mention about bills and ask why you alone when you have a mate. Sorry... to me that is selfish.Unless you are saying he only see you or spent time with you when he needs something from you then i would have to say something is wrong and you should be causion. Ask yourself if he is making use of you. I am saying ba
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Thanks for your answer. I don't ask for much time. I am not getting any time. He may give me a few hours a week. I do not expect him to stop leaving. I want him to be about his business. I just don't want to be there to support you and continue to pay your bills. Fair is fair. I am tired of being there always for him and not getting anything in return.
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Posted by anotherinnocent Jan 29th, 2011 at 12:52AM
I have been in a relationship for the last three and a half years with someone. For the last two he would rather spend time in front of the tv (from when he wakes up to when he goes to sleep, often in front of the tv). I am with him because A. I really don't think I can do any better and no one will ever love me if I leave him and B. We have a three month old together. I would leave if I were you. I know how unhappy and lonely I am.
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Reply by bigdudy68 Jan 25th, 2011 at 10:25AM
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