ok here it is.. he will always put you first... your needs come first.... and when you do the same for him... ohh my god.. now thats a sweet friendship or love.... a great guy puts you first always....
I saw a great answer for a similar question the other day (so i cant take credit for it)
I plan in using it the next time im evaluating a girl, but it was related to a question about men as youve asked.
Dont look at how they treat you, look at how they treat everyone else.... They could be putting on a show just coz they like you.
If id followed this advice, I would have broken up with her yearrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrs earlier. She is so rude to sales staff at stores and the like. Made me cringe to be in her presence in these situations tbh. I would often apologise to them, if i got a moment alone without her.
A very valuable clue that i stupidly ignored.......
Hope that helps :) Good luck to you.
I think any guy who will take care of a woman when she's sick would be a good sign.
There are usually little "red flags" even with the most practiced and talented fakers. Little comments he might make about women. The kinds of jokes that he laughs at. The types of movies that he watches. And when he talks about himself, what does he emphasize? When he talks about past relationships, what kinds of things does he say about his exes? Is it always someone else's fault, is he always the victim, or does he take responsibility?
If he is a real fake, then there will be other people who know it. Fakers tend to silo their relationships...in other words, he might not want you to meet his other friends. He might not want to go to certain places- like where another "friend" works. He might not want you to know names of any of the people who were once in his life....especially someone like an ex....he will not want you to compare notes or know him in the way that an ex would know him.
If you watch him closely, you will be able to detect whether he is turning charm on and off. Always consider the fact that words are cheap. See if he is like a chameleon at all- with different faces for different people. It is hard for a charlatan to hold up any singular facade for long.
I think the key to finding a great guy is giving it time. Not allowing yourself to be charmed or to believe in him simply because you want to. The greatest men are easygoing, not too terribly complicated in their attitudes and prejudices, and they know what they believe. They are always who they are and they want to be around other people who are genuine too. And keep in mind, words are just that. Even if a man describes himself as having the right characteristics, it doesn't mean he has them. Like the man I loved who told me to "be yourself", yet then went on to ridicule me to within an inch of my life. It's all about actions. His respect for you and others. And time.
I think his true self comes out after some time so, you need to date him a bit and get to know him. But that's just me. I've met ladies who said he was love a first sight and their love lasted for ages so...