First of all, staying home is work... Secondly, if you are a married couple, it should not be "his" money or "my" money, it should be "our" money, regardless of who "earned" it. That is my opinion, and that is the way I have lived with my wife and "our" money for nearly 20 years. Despite the fact that I am the one who has been working full time and she has been at home.

I think part of the reason it was so easy for us to fall into this model is that, when we met, neither of us had anything. We did not own a car between us and we had no money to speak of. So, as we built up our little world we did it together. I think where the problem comes in for couples who come together later in life is that each person may already have their own life and property which they have worked hard for and want to retain.... If this is your situation, I'm not sure what is best. But, at some point, you will have to make it clear that, staying home is work and it needs to be rewarded just as a "real job" does... :)

When I was married my husband refused to work. Not we chose for him to stay home, but just flat refused to work. I gave him an allowance. I felt bad, but if I was going to pay everything I wasn't giving him lots of money to waste on alcohol.

Talk to him, make sure he knows that you need money to live on too. Consider setting up 2 accounts, the one for the normal bills and another for spending money (this works great if you can have pay checks direct deposited into 2 accounts)

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Here's what I do. Fridany night is payday night so I take all the money and go party and get drunk. What I have left when I get home the wife takes from my pockets and pays bills.

yes i think if you got alot of money from him then i think it would not be a problem but if he didnt give you much money then it would be a problem im thinking if you didnt get much money maybe you should get a job

My wife and I both work, and our money all goes into one saving or checking account. We pool our resources to have/get what we need and want. She has a savings account from before I even met her, and as far as Im concerned that's HER money to do with as she pleases. We respect each other enough to ask or let the other know if we want something and have to take from our joint account, it just lets us know that we are in it together. Thats how we have always done it anyway....it doesnt matter who makes more or who contributes more, as long as we are on the same page and going in the same direction.