Time, nothing but time, and love for yourself.
hello, lesbiankryptonite.... time neither heals nor hurts..... it is what we do with that time that affects us. a little like guns don't hurt people, it is what people do with guns that hurts people. as for giving yourself love - i totally agree with you, it is an essential. respect, from robbie
you dont it takes time
firstly, you have to accept that there was nothing wrong with your love, you just loved the person that was not right for you.
secondly, accept your pain. it is just a message from your feelings that tells you that you have lost something that felt important to you.
thirdly, don't rush into another relationship just to ease the pain... it might feel good short term... but in the end it just makes things worse.
fourthly, no booze or drugs... they just provide anaesthesia and stop us healing.
fifthly, accept that when the time is right, your pain will ease. if your love was deep, then it takes about two years.
i am sure there is a sixth, seventh and eighth..... maybe you could think about those... and we will publish a book "the hurt lover's survival guide" ;-))
tenth, be kind to yourself, nurture yourself, long warm baths, soothing oils, music...
don't forget chocolate ;-)) but not to excess... that is an entirely different category.
how you feeling now?
respect, from robbie
With time. Best to remember to never go back with him. There is a reason why he broke your heart and for whatever reason it was, it's never an excuse and never make excuses to go back with him. Don't lie to yourself and say that he'll change, especially when you know why he did. There is only one reason why and it's better off to find someone who will make you their world.
I was told that you should only date someone when you're ready, not when you're lonely. Right now, I believe that you're lonely. Let yourself heal before you find someone else or you'll end up with a bigger heartbreak than before.
Silver thread and Golden needles, that and time. May or may not work.
Time...and a whole lot of it.
In time, your heart will patch up and move on. It's just how it is.
All you have to do is know that being with him is a bad idea and that you're better off without him.
Sleep with his home boy
Are the beegees in concert?
You give it to someone who will cherish it and it heals with love...
you stitch it up and cure it with some honey : ).
Through time, and acceptance and moving on.
Oh, and a hug from me works too. (Gives you a warm embrace.)
You will get through it-trust me I have been there. :)
Until you stop loving him, not much you can do. He sounds like a creep. You deserve better than that.
you are the problem