How do you politely tell a new friend to BACK OFF? Your being a pest.
There's this guy in my building in an apartment just two floors down below me. He is somatic, complaining of pain and hardship. From what he told me, his leg was almost cut off in an accident and they used a steel rod and pins to fix it. Eventually the bone will grow back. Until then he is in constant pain, complicated because he became addicted to the methadone he took. He also sufferers from severe anxiety... he had a choice... benzo's or addictive pain meds? He picked benzo's. Since he is so somatic, no one wants to socialize with him, "because all he does is talk about his pain." He has only a bed, TV on a stand and a lamp on a dresser and a chair. He's bored, in pain and with no where to go. I am the one who befriended him and my heart goes out to him. Yet, he is always at my door. I have my own anxiety and depression. Sometimes I just need space. I told him that. He doesn't get it. I feel bad. Yet, he can burn me out. I know myself quite well, 2 days of space and I will seek him out. I feel bad about this...what do I do?