How do you tell a guy without being a bitch that you can't date him because he lacks intelligence and motivation?
About two weeks ago I gave this really cute 30 y/o guy my number, and he called me. We went on a date, and he was really sweet but kind of psycho... he immediately started telling me every thought in his head without censoring it, which included "OMG I want to spend all my time with you forever now", and "I do hardcore drugs, but I use a needle so its safer." He makes up words. The worst part was that he had ZERO motivation and ZERO going for him, he still lives on his moms couch (not his own bedroom, literally a couch). He has no car and works as a cart corral at a hardware store. I'm not materialistic; I'd actually be okay with this if he was going to school to try and better his situation, or even saving up for a car or a place or SOMETHING. he dropped out of high school. I asked what his plans were for the future and his response was "I want to play guitar and change the world". "How?" "Uhm, I dunno." I have tried just backing away but he wont quit. I can't deal with it.