Sorry about your issue. Don't sell em short. Be upfront. What ever the response is, a least you know. Better than just tormenting yourself like you have been. Best wishes.
:)...You think you are only one who needs attention?
It doesn't matter how or when. If they love you they will support you.
And if they don't, they obviously don't deserve you.
you sit down and say sorry but you will never have sex again......
honesty is best
have to be honest or it will hurt even more