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How does an attractive girl or woman deal with the nasty treatment because of jealousy? No catty answers please.

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Asked By: TireSoup4 46-50, F  10 months ago

I know that there will be some who will say there are more important things to worry about and there are and I do have empathy for people. But, I have been beaten up, hit over the head with a bottle of Jack Daniels, I had a woman try to run me over with her car because her boyfriend talked to me, I could go on and on, but I think you get the picture. I have never gone out with friends boyfriends or husbands, although I have been accused of it many times. I am not a **** as I have been called since I was twelve. I have never cheated on my boyfriend or husband. What I am trying to ask is what can I do to just be treated as the kind and giving good friend that I am?

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    kaitlyn1386 - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by kaitlyn1386 1 Aug 16th, 2012 at 11:59AM

    It really depends on the situation and what mood im in. I grew up with 3 older brothers so I learned how to fight. It didnt used to bother me to walk up to another girl and punch her right in the mouth. As ive gotten older I have learned to be more tolerant and not be so short tempered towards the haters. We each have to learn to deal with these kinds of people in our lives.

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  1. TireSoup4 - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by TireSoup4 Aug 16th, 2012 at 1:51PM

    Kaitlyn, your comment is extrememly similar to what I have endured. I grew up with 5 brothers and they use to tell me if someone jealous tried to get physical to act crazy and not hold back during a fight. I never ran from one. At my prom a group of girls got me while I was in the bathroom and pushed my head in the toilet, I fought the best I could, but there were too many to fight. Luckily. a teacher walked in and saw what was done and asked me why my hair was wet. (dumb question), I said nothing. She took a look at the girls and noticed one was trying to hide a pair of scissors, thank god they didn't get a chance to cut my hair off or stab me. The teacher told us to get back to the party; she did nothing. While leaving the bathroom, I was sucker punched by the girl walking next to me. I headed straight for the door and walked home. But, little old me even won a few of these unprovoked fights. I didn't want to fight I was forced to.

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  2. kaitlyn1386 - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by kaitlyn1386 Aug 17th, 2012 at 10:12AM

    Sorry to hear that. I was always a bit of a tomboy growing up. Playing sports etc. so I actually kinda enjoyed the fights but I was never one to start it. I never had a gang of girls jump on me it was always one mouthy one in the group and everytime I called that one out the rest backed away It also helped that I had my own group of friends that I knew had my back. Im glad you made it through all your troubles.I dont know how I will react when I have kids and find out they are going through something like this.

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  1. adixman - 61-65 years old - male

    Posted by adixman Aug 18th, 2012 at 11:41PM

    My wife can relate to your question for because of her comeliness, cleavage and a behind that is worth worship most women's jaws get tight if she is around them long enough. My wife once told her supervising RN that she too would have a bad attitude if it took her hours to look her best before she went to a social gathering, the male doctors naturally took her side. Darling there have been times when my wife dresses down not wanting to cause offense for something she can't help and I made her stop this by showing her the positive side: There are 2 types of females the jealous ones all you can do is watch your back but there are those to whom you inspire to strive to do the best they can with what they have and will try to imitate you and that is flattery. It is the smart girls who befriended by wife when she was my gf because being "male struck" they knew that she drew dudes like fish to bait and they were there to take advantage of the residue because once these guys knew the score most were gentleman that were glad to settle for friendship with her. Though the scaly wags may scorn and denounce you for what you had no control over receiving female beauty will always have a redeeming value in itself and with this in mind the most powerful weapon you have is to practice a sweet humble and unassuming nature. My woman is so genuine that she still bushes when a total stranger tells her how pretty she is. Now you know what that does to the painted ladies.

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  2. showstar - 61-65 years old - male

    Posted by showstar Aug 16th, 2012 at 7:50AM

    As I have gotten older I look at the situations I may be getting myself into. Booze always lights a fire in people. Look at your sroundings and assess them. And avoid men with girlfriends in bars. I being serious here.

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  3. JessicaLo - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by JessicaLo Aug 16th, 2012 at 4:35AM

    Wow! I am so sorry to hear about the total abuse you have been put through! That's awful. Women can be crazy jealous and there is not a thing you or I can do about it.
    I was hoping I would come up with a great solution for you but I can only tell you to keep being your genuine self. Be kind to others (as I'm sure you are) and hopefully all the haters will realize you are not the threat, their own insecurities are!
    xoxo

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  4. TireSoup4 - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by TireSoup4 Aug 21st, 2012 at 12:29PM

    Thank you for your empathy. I put my younger years behind me because it's the past. Well, I found adults are like this as well, but they try to hide it, I can spot jealousy as soon as I enter a room. It still happens. I can deal, but a jealous person usually acts on it. Catty comments said directly to me and behind my back. There is a "look" I see in a jealous persons eyes. This is not always about looks, jealousy rears it's ugly head in many ways.

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  5. 6andy9 - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by 6andy9 Aug 16th, 2012 at 3:37AM

    Sounds like the low life people have got it in for you.

    Very hard to answer this question. All I will say is jealousy is very bad, and women show it more.

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