Marriage is very hard work It is not for everyone.They should teach about it in school.
I think it would take a lot for me to leave my marriage, I have a super husband, 10 years we have been thru a great deal, would I ever marry again ...no..never..ever. I love him but knowing how hard it is to keep someones life and health, money and home inorder plus take care of me...na. He has been great but i would just date.
Actually, I think my standards are quite low. I should look at raising them. I'm surprised that I was able to be with as nice a person as I am considering the crappy guys I've accepted into my life before.<br />
But no, I don't think that most people understand marriage and I think that most also get married for completely the wrong reasons.
I would leave my marriage if I began to lose my rights as an individual or as an equal partner.<br />
I would also leave if there was no more love. That's owed to both parties in involved.
My, parents were married for 50 years and 5 months, till my dad died in 07, and my mom pasted away in May of this year, and though they had ther up-s and downs, they still made it. Marriage is is 100 percent from both sides, not50-50. You have to be willing to work at it. But, see I am a gay man and what do I know? pepsiboy
I was pathetically TOLD to leave my marriage....wait for it, it's coming....here it is....by my caring (Ha!) husband.....YEARS ago, mind you - during a time when I pathetically lived a very spineless life as a subserviant wife (and loved it). "I always liked you as a person and knew you would be a loyal, hard-working mother....but I never fell in love with you...it's best you move on...." he said...So, apparently, my standards were pretty low - as in, I picked a jerk! And I love him! Shame on me.... So, clearly, from this life-lesson - I learned to never trust anyone who utters the words, "I love you - I want to be with you forever (lies!!!!)" - So, my current standards are now - Shut Up - smile - be a good person - and if we like each other in ten years - I'll consider continued dating. People can be wonderful - within reason - I just don't want to find out about their "jerk" side, hence I keep "the fence" as it were. My standards? Be a nice person and if you are are not a nice person - fake it well and stay away just enough not to hurt me/others.
probably. after going thru what i've been thru, a lot of doors have closed.
What kind of standards? for sex, moral, food, car, house, job, money, friends, parents, recreation, children, habits,...??<br />
The list can go on and on and on... but where does the list end??<br />
Are you forsaking all others?... which one is most important?<br />
Sex, Job/Career/Money, Feminism, Political views, Children, Parents, Culture, Other people/Your Country, or him/her??<br />
The one you pick first will be following you all along...<br />
Expecting marriages to be perfect without any relationship homeworks? Why? <br />
If you want to understand marriages, you need to understand life first, because marriage is only a part of life...<br />
meaning of life, anyone??<br />
Giving up, stop trying, not believing him/her, or just plain no commitment will make anybody to leave marriages.<br />
So what is a marriage anyway??<br />
How does a marriage work??
After what I've been through in my marriage, I can say I'VE BEEN MORE THAN REASONABLE. Even if I am unhappy I don't give up to easy either. So many would say to just leave because what i've experienced. Although I appreciate when people try to help, it is still up to me to make any decisions WHEN I WANT, NOT when others want or think. I Now will set my standards very high though, whether if it's a friendship or more!
Even though I had to lower my standards, my marriage still sucked, so I finally left.