Get your mind on anything else and also hit the gym or walk. You have pent up energy and you need to let that out. Any kind of physical activity will help.
Your problem isn't a physical one but an emotional one. If "taking care of it yourself" still leaves you "wanting" then you are looking for someone to fill an emotional need that you can't fullfill yourself. If you have a busy or hectic schedule you might try a "friend with benefits" but be sure he understands you need him to be there for you emotionaly not just physicaly or you'll end up with more peoblems than you started with.
Well, who stuck the Monogamy Gun to your head?<br />
Oh that's right: you did. <br />
Count this as one of those questions you could easily find an answer to yourself.<br />
>>Then why ask?
I assume your lover is away somewhere and you want to be faithful? well then I agree with bunnieblue, use physical activity to get your mind off it, and tire you out so you're too tired to think about sex, let out some of that pent up energy, at the gym or in a pool or something, and also keep master- bating just to take the edge off. also using physical activity will help you physically look and feel better, so when your lover does come home they'll love the way you look and that you've been faithful.... trust me!! then you two will rock the casbar!! & it will have all been worth it, plus you will feel wonderful about yourself, physically cuz you look great from all the exercise, and mentally & emotionally cuz you were true to your partner. going out and cheating may get your rocks off, but you feel awful inside after, you feel like a liar and a traitor, which is what you would be. if you make a promise that you are in a monogamous relationship you should keep it, or break up with them before you venture out. not enough people do that now a days, there are too many cheaters, and people who don't take trust and relationships seriously, sometimes relationships are hard, just like it is for you now, but when you get through it without betrayal it will make the bond between you two so much stronger!