if both partners are truly content, it's fine.
if one feels it's too much or not enough, or feels their needs are somehow not being met, then it's not necessarily a matter of frequency.
sex isn't just about *******. it isn't a numbers game. it's not just a mechanical "cleaning of the pipes" or a workout.
it's about communication, letting down one's guard, being real to one another, experiencing a non-verbal exchange together that conveys a perspective and a state of being and gives you both a barometer of the health of the relationship in a way that no amount of talking can match...
forget frequency and focus on quality, and on communication in general.
To much becomes a chore and I think it should happen just when you and other half want to more enjoyable 😊
All depends on you how long do u think it should happen or not happen ?
It's not so much the frequency, but the quality. If both the frequency and quality aren't there, it's an intimacy issue.
After four years of marriage and one year of living together I've come to the conclusion that both are missing. My wife recently said to me that she'll never initiate sex because it's not part of her personality. That hurt like hell.
When it gets to be less than once per week, on a regular basis, that's too infrequent for a healthy marriage with me.
To a nympho, twice per day or less might be too little! :)
I need sex because that's how I can best please my partner. Pleasing her pleases me! If I don't get to do it often enough, it makes me lose interest in her. Why be married if you're no longer interested in your spouse??? Life is short. We have the right to be happy. I'll find someone else to please.
Yes, I can divorce her despite my deep love and respect for her. Here's why. Love comes in many forms. There's the love between husband and wife, father and son, man and his pet, between best friends, and so on. I would still love her and hope that we can be friends. She could no longer be my wife because I have sexual needs that she can't satisfy. I need sex often, no question about that. If I must go elsewhere for sex, it would be wrong to do it while still married unless my wife and I both agreed that it's okay for me to have sex with someone else while we remain married. That's not likely to happen.
I hear you. But what's worse? Living in an empty marriage or throwing the dice again in hopes of something better?
Then you're stuck in a sexless marriage. Is your willpower strong enough to prevent you from EVER cheating on your husband? Also, there's a chance that your husband has lost interest in you because he's already cheating on you. In my opinion, it's not wise to stay married if there's no sex between you two. Lastly, are you sure it's love that's keeping you with him, or is it need (financial or emotional)?
depends on what both people want, but for me personally...less than once a week.
Infrequently enough for you not to be happy.
Less than once a week is not enough.
it will always depend on the couple - if both are not happy , something is wrong.
when it becomes a stumbling block for peace and joy in the relationship, and is a point of constant dispute.
Anything less than 7x a week?? ;)
sex does not define a marriage. best friend, love, closeness, and respect do. don't get the two confused.
only if they let it happen. as adults, we should be able to control the things that upset us. An occasional tryst may be called for, but discression is a must. It is extremely difficult to find a partner that will respect a sexual encounter with no expections. I would love to have a f--- buddy that only wanted sex, and that is all, but I don't believe they exist.
I know someone too, but like you guilt would do me in.
Sex is a small part, but an important part. Once that leaves, you're just roomates.
I agree totally. You just defined my marriage.
It has to be so sporadic you don't remember or even miss it . One time a year