I Do, married 6 years now to a beautiful man, but celebrating the 10 year anniversary of the day I met my husband today. Growing up with the generation I am from, our parents all, seemed at/around the same time started a messed up trend to go thru like a mid-life crisis and divorced around the same time "wanting something better out of life" for themselves, now their parents, with exception of few were more opt to stay together till death. You know what that did, other than make people not of their word? It showed the rest of us bad examples of How a marriage does not work. We lost sight of what good ones looked like.
I knew at a young age, I wanted the romance, the old fashioned courting, to know before I ever said an I do, I knew I would be sure of it and I took it serious, I mean this commitment is for life, a promise you are making. Marriage is so sacred, sharing a life with someone, having a pure one of a kind bond that no one else has that you get to, you make the promises, and you keep them!
I don't care who you are, there are always tell tell signs that someone is not right for you way before it gets to that point of wanting to marry someone, so many just ignore that because they love the thought of being in love, they do not want to be alone or what someone does for them, which to me is very selfish, at times I feel to care more about my spouse then I ever do myself and he does the same for me, or so that’s how I have been experiencing it. I was proposed marriage to by 3 men and said no 3 times before I even met my husband, it came down to I knew I wasn't "in love" with them. I could never fake it, as now a days you can see ones that do. Hence the reality TV show marriages ;)
If you want to know more, pay attention to the marriages that work, ones You see people happy in, with social media reporting and the emphasis on just who is marrying who and the divorces, how often have you ever seen a couple celebrated for the long ones? rarely ever.
I tell you all this because it effects my heart to see anyone lose hope in the sanctity of marriage. Take the time, especially when your young to get to know yourself, love yourself first, if you don't, then how in the world can you expect anyone else to? We all deserve it, a valuable marriage.
I DO!!....been married for 23 plus years......you just gotta work at it and commit to it
Marriage is a joke.
Nope. Least not to me.
*Raises Hand* I do
I always thought that marriage was a good thing when I was a little girl. Now though, I don't value it as much. If 2 people love each other, then why would you need to be married?
if you don't get married, then there is no danger of a divorce. Also, what about same sex couples?
It's the quality of the relationship that matters, not the public status.
Life is bigger than words.
Yes. I'm LDS, or Mormon. Marriage is something that I've been taught is sacred and important because in our religion it isn't "Til death do us part", but "For Time and all eternity" if you are married in the temple. This makes the choice of who and when you are married much more important and significant.
I value marriage. It is the best school, teaches you at first how to give, than how to understand, forgive, and compromise. It may open minds and hearts. I value especially the unhappy marriages, imo those could be ones to open the minds and hearts. By being very happy we may keep inside the circle, focus on its warm and cozy interior contemplating the walls. Yet unhappiness I guess could give a soul pushes to question to do searches for new universe, not for a lover but something deeper, wider ... It may be the road for creativity where singers makes wonderful songs painters are creating movements and colors, books takes form... Or volunteer work may rise, awareness .... It is very hard for a husband or a wife to fulfill each other for a life time... Marriage nowdays may also be a reason for the government and churches to keep control of the couples and their children. The married couple is forced to struggle to provide a roof, food, education for the children. Of course from there "must have" consumerism could also reach the ceiling so here is how marriage can be only a reason to fill the pockets of some who value money and assets over everything....
I do. It's something that is supposed to last, but so many people write it off. "Oh, this marriage isn't working out, guess I'll get a divorce." Shake the kids up, they will get over it. Who cares, right?
It is a valued thing. Unique in its doing correctly.
I value marriage, but it hasn't been very good to me in general. Four of them broken, now. *sigh*
Yeah. So that's what my situation has given me. I think marriage is supposed to be great- but for me it really isn't so great....:-/
As soon as I find the right girl
Depends on what values one attaches to marriage. I value mine for the goals we achieved together, the responsibilities we have shared, the friendship and the love.
It's not perfect, mine is on shaky ground right now because I think our priorities and goals have shifted apart. People say marriages fail, but I won't ever say mine did. I value it for the accomplishments and where we have gotten together in life.
Good for us, not sure what the problem is with these sad sacks. Personal view is, they are the same people who keep making poor choices.
Yep, we are both pig headed, opinionated, strong willed and darn hard to deal with at times. We do get a good laugh at ourselves at times, and I have no problem with saying I'm sorry, my fault or not if i think it is needed, and I have noticed the same of her. Its not easy to merge two lives and make it livable for both and still allow for growth, but it has to be done or you quit.
Thanks, wish you the same, choose well, love hard, yes, personal creativity is always good in a monogamous marriage
I value strong, healthy, mutually beneficial relationships. Marriage can be this but is too often not. Marriage can make ones life easier though because it is so widely accepted and recognized by society, intuitions and the government. These means they have a preset way if interacting with you and your spouce and are not required to think, which can be a good thing.
I do. People today just don't care about anything. If they have to work to achieve something, they don't want it. They don't want to commit to anything. That's why people hate marriage today. Plus, society's morals are just f*cked up anyway. It's like a car. You can buy the car and have it as your own, or you can just rent it. I'd rather own the car, thank you very much. When the time is right of course. Think out your decision.
Yeah. And many divorce for stupid reasons. Granted many get married for stupid reasons too, like unwanted pregnancy. You have to think and make decisions before hand. Hard decisions.
I value marriage highly, ours has lasted over 50 years, we've been through tough times & good times, always together & helping each other. For us it's not a religious commitment in any way, it's a loving partnership to be treasured. It's give & take, working together, open discussions, being thoughtful & pleasing each other. Don't knock it, make it work & it's so rewarding!
It costs us our "Bachelor's" degree only for you to get your "Masters" and Marriage certificates are just other words for work permits.
Interesting but I think you are getting the "Legal Marriage Certificate" confused with the question of "Marriage" they are legally separate considerations. Marriage is the contract between the [ok I am going to be old fashioned] a Man and a Woman, A marriage certificate is a legal document that say's the State approves for mating rights. Until the oppressive non religious and gay rights groups politics get involved.
Second time's the charm
it's excellent. Got out of my starter marriage
I do :) in the right time tho