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dotan
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How should I pass after everything?
I am usually in front of computer. In his mind, I have contacted with many males and that thinking makes him sad. He thinks I like American and Canadian boys. He doesn't believe he is the first man I have contacted. To him, I am impolite cause he thinks my peoples are impolite. He leaves me when he is angry. He wants me to do anything he wants. He never listens what I say. I just want to say to him that I can not stand any more and we should solve our problem. I wrote to him a message but he said he is so busy to read it. He deleted it after that.


Now he keeps silence. I open my friend list and see his ID bright many times but no reply from my messages. I feel tired now. I know he has contacted many girls and their messages I can not accept. I discovered it when I used his computer. Although he said he is serious with me, no promises. We don't have enough belief or he just played with me?

I can not forgive myself for what happened. I made a mistakes that I can not correct myself, that is the thing I usually think of. I wish I could turn back time.
Posted 4 months ago - 4 weeks left to answer.

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Citysky
Posted Jan 1st, 2009 at 10:02AM
OMG run, run, run!!!!! You are being used and abused. Leave this person. You are worth more. This is crap and you don't need to take it. Stop wasting your time.
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yumigami
Posted Oct 30th, 2008 at 7:45PM
He doesn't seem to trust you. That's not your fault. If he is not willing to talk it out with you and solve the problems you're having, then he is just being a jerk. If he really cares he should be able to take the time to listen or to read your messages. I think he is also just jealous and is maybe trying to make you jealous by ignoring you. He needs to grow up and talk with you.
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KnocKnack
Posted Dec 16th, 2008 at 7:07PM
let go of him, you're wasting your (life)time
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DaughterDestiny
Posted Dec 16th, 2008 at 7:07PM
Man its not worth it. He has like a 1960's view of women with the whole dominating aspect. I get that you love him or like him or whatever and you can't control your heart but you need to try to see that he's not the one for you.
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GwennaJane
Posted Dec 10th, 2008 at 9:37AM
Wow. I'm not sure you have really shared or communicated the entire problem here. You say you made a mistake; what was it?

Regardless, if this is how he is treating you my best advice is to give him his space for awhile. It kinda goes back to that old saying: If you love something set it free. If it comes back to you it is yours. If it doesn't, it never was.

Good luck.
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Enki2
Posted Dec 16th, 2008 at 7:08PM
I am not sure what your relationship with this person is. If he is on online boyfriend, I would say without reservation that you are better off without him and just delete his emails, IM contacts , etc. and forget about him.

If he is an in-person relationship, you definitely need to put some distance in between you and set some expectations about how you expect to be treated - starting with RESPECT.

I sense a cultural issue is at work here - perhaps you grew up in a male dominated society, and he's playing you by using that against you. Well, its the 21st century and it's time to assert yourself equally!

From now on, stop chasing him - no apologies, nothing. If he comes back begging, think about 100 times before you reply. If he doesn't come back, kick up your heels and be happy - someone better is out there for you.
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here4mysanity
Posted Oct 11th, 2008 at 10:56PM
i agree with citysky this guys a real looser
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Idea
Posted Sep 18th, 2008 at 4:49PM
I think that he may just not want to be with you any more. Possibly ignoring you to upset you enough to not try to get him back or call it off yourself. Tell him that it would be best to talk it through. Jealousy in guys generally makes them do stupid things. Try talking verbally about it, in a calm and rational manner. The best thing to do is try working with him. If he won't stop talking with the women, then don't stop talking to the guys. There should be equality in every situation and relationship.
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biscuits
Posted Nov 18th, 2008 at 12:05PM
Time will heal this wound although it feels like forever, it will not be. Detach yourself. Act as if you don't care over & over & someday you will actually not care any longer. Keep busy.
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cheetahbug5
Posted Dec 26th, 2008 at 6:04PM
Kick him to the curb. You don't need that kind of sh*t.
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gossiper222
Posted Jan 3rd, 2009 at 2:35AM
This is called spousal abuse, you need to realise you want your freedom, and not be controlled by this man. Please find someone who gives as well as takes, instead of taking everything from you. I wish you the best in the future.
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unicorn59
Posted Jan 4th, 2009 at 3:13PM
I wouldn't be nice or polite to someone either, if they ignored me, was rude to me, didn't take the time to even read an email....He is devaluing you...go find a guy who can commit, and treats you like you matter.
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