How to deal with a 15-16 years old alcoholic girl? ( read details and NO HARSH COMMENTS )
I "discovered" that one of the kids in the youth group I'm leader of, is alcoholic. Fist before I knew about it, we decided to have a dinner at one of the kids' house, his parents were out for dinner. As usual me and two adult girls (my assistants) were forced to be there because parents wont send their kids without me being with them.. So here we go, the girl got drunk secretly, got caught of those who provided her the alcohol, after further inquiries I was told that she's totally alcoholic, and after tons of disasters she provoked that night, she slept and woke up crying. How to deal with this problem?
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Posted by peza Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:17AM
I doubt very much that a girl of that age is an alcoholic and branding her as one won't help.
A quiet word with the parents would be my advice.
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Reply by The13thLostSoul Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:54AM
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Posted by Govinda1337 Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:15AM
Someone definitely has to talk to her because she's throwing her life away. It definitely IS a symptom of a larger problem it was for me because I've been there. Does any of her friends or peers know? If so then it's time for an intervention. What's going on at her home? I'd nose around there too. Chances are it's probably not too happy over there.
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Reply by The13thLostSoul Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:45AM
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Posted by amberdextrous Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:17AM
Whatever you do, LS13, if she stops drinking then relapses, don't come down on her like a ton of bricks. It will only give her one more reason to drink, if she loses friends.
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Reply by The13thLostSoul Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:39AM
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Posted by shaandar Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:10AM
Confront her about her behaviour and ask her to get help and have the issue resolved
if the person still does not try to resolve the behaviour, talk to your higherups about it
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Reply by The13thLostSoul Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:19AM
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Reply by shaandar Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:25AM
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Posted by justkoz Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:05AM
She needs a lot of help! She probably has been taken advantage of and is only drinking to cover up what she can't tell anyone. This is only a possiblity.
She is depressed to be crying. I would say seeing a counselor or psychiatrist would be in order.
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Reply by The13thLostSoul Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:21AM
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Posted by NeoZen Jun 18th, 2012 at 6:20AM
I would first suggest to be thankful that the girl is drinking and not smoking crack. So are we talking about a rather very normal teenage girl who wants to drink? Or are we truly talking about an alcoholic? I am not going to say it is right, nor am I going to try to defend anyone, but even though it is illegal it is quite normal for a young teenager to want to get into the alcohol. It is practically a right of passage to be underage and drinking. What I might suggest is to find someone that DOES have a disputable reputation to add to your counsel. They would offer far more insight to the situation than to only have those with indisputable reputations.
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Reply by The13thLostSoul Jun 25th, 2012 at 4:38AM
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Posted by perseverer Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:08AM
Thank you for caring, for asking for ideas, and for showing preparedness to help. You are in the right job. This girl needs a rock of support.
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Reply by The13thLostSoul Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:24AM
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Reply by perseverer Jun 18th, 2012 at 8:16AM
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Posted by TheWanderingSupertramp Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:08AM
Umm what the hell is with you and this question? I am not saying alcohol is how they should be dealing with the obvious problems they are having, but going and b******* and saying 'what the hell'? is really quite rude. Either try and help or butt out of it.
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Posted by fishsweeper Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:02AM
She belongs in AA for teens -after rehab... But she's NOT your child,and there's nothing that you can do with an alchoholic unless that person is motivated to change. At her age, she's going to REALLY have to 'hit the wall' or have life-changing event for that to happen. It's frustrating,for sure, but hounding her about it will only makes things worse,since it's out of your 'jurisdiction', as it were. The only thing that you CAN do is ostracize her from your group, which could possibly save other teens from joing her in her addiction. That won't be 'great' for her, but her addiction has to run its course. Better to do good for the whole than the one,I think.
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Reply by The13thLostSoul Jun 19th, 2012 at 12:44AM
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Reply by fishsweeper Jun 19th, 2012 at 9:04AM
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Posted by NigelDoes Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:02AM
You definitely need to talk to her parents, despite the possible repercussions.
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Posted by iatso Jun 18th, 2012 at 2:58AM
Talk to the young lady and ask her what got or happen to cause her to drink. And try taking her camping, hiking stuff that involve alot of physical activity and it should be an alcohol free environent.
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Reply by The13thLostSoul Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:50AM
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Reply by iatso Jun 18th, 2012 at 12:55PM
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Posted by FlowingDragon Jun 18th, 2012 at 2:56AM
consult the parents
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Reply by The13thLostSoul Jun 19th, 2012 at 12:42AM
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Posted by DallasCowboysFan Oct 23rd, 2012 at 10:58PM
If she is an alcoholic this young , she could also become pregnant and in the future an abuser of drugs.
Speak with her parents and have one of your assistants with you for support.
Call al anon or aa and see what they can do for you.
If you are a youth leader, than I assume you are in church. Use your resources and see if there are any psychiatrists or doctors or nurses available to consult. They see this everyday and they could help. Even a police officer or fireman can help. They deal with issues like this as well. They can point you in the right direction.
Good Luck and don't quit on her...
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Posted by dskdw25q9n Oct 23rd, 2012 at 10:43PM
Educate her about how ugly she will look, even before she hits thirty, if she doesn't take care of herself. Guys won't want to date her.
I am 62 years old. All the heavy drinkers, whom I knew in my younger years, have either died or have become immobilized in their older years due to chronic health problems.
Educate teenagers, so that they understand the long-term consequence to one's health.
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Posted by PlainMeJustMe Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:22AM
I Was A Alcoholic By Twelve Beating It Wasn't Easy I Did It On My Own. So If You Really Want To Help Her Talk To Her And Let Her Know You'll Be By Her Side. Get Her To Realize That She Won't Have To Do It Alone And Get To The Bottom Of Why She's Doing So. When I Drank I Drank To Get Away From My Problems. Each Person Has Different Reasons And If You Can't Get To The Bottom Of The Why Doing Anything Else Is Pointless.
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Reply by The13thLostSoul Jun 25th, 2012 at 4:39AM
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Posted by MathMan789 Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:06AM
That's a tough one. I'd have to ask more questions to get a better idea of what life at home is like
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Reply by The13thLostSoul Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:45AM
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Reply by MathMan789 Jun 18th, 2012 at 3:51AM
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