I'm a virgo guy... Well, a virgo GAY guy. The thing is we don't like being smothered around & we don't like clingy people. We like keeping things light. A date of 2 or 3 doesn't make us in love with you. We don't like being told what to do OR yelled at. The play hard to get thing is for you to prove how much you want us. You have to PROVE it. Words are not enough. Don't expect us to sleep with you on the 1st date. That's a big NO NO. We usually sleep with people if we think they're right or if we are in love with you. We "think" a lot. We call it analyzing. We analyze things around us. & We don't want to much space. You have to have wits if you want to deal with a virgo. You show to much emotions after only 3 dates... We'll feel weird & leave. We don't sugarcoat sh*t we tell it how it is. We are picky & critical... And sorry one of our biggest problem (for some of us) is the mood swings its usually because we think to much. But, one way to stop that from happening is if you take, do, etc we've never done/ been etc before. We don't like our mates to be sad or angry. We'd do everything to keep that special someone happy. Seriously. We're not that bad.
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zachivanm, being your a virgo man..i wanted to get some advice from you ..i clicked on your profile to message you but unable to..could you message me please ...
I dated a Virgo guy sometime ago.. am a Capricorn they have something going on their mind continously they don't open up.. well it was my first relationship,I loved him to the core the way he was.. eventually he broke up.. now we are 2 poles apart.. I miss him sometimes.. i am just like him i won't initiate for expression of feelings..we are just so alike..
I heard something interesting about virgo men on the radio last year;
1. they show you they like you or care for you but they don't do anything and you wonder what happened; I thought you liked me or cared for me
2. you go for days or weeks before you even see them again
3. they're eccentric; you don't know what they're thinking.
I listened to that astrology show twice but it disappeared from the radio. isn't that weird?
CRAZY. This is literally my relationship! WOW. Literally, it always feels like he doesn't care (even though he shows it through the little things), I see him once every one or two weeks, and I can NEVER tell what the hell is on his mind! Guess it's just normal then, nothing to worry about.
If i ignore him and give him lots of space, he is very angry, throws tantrums, then if I start to be nice, he acts cold and plays hard to get..that is exactly what my Virgo man also does, and boy its tough to be with such men. I am sorry i cannot help you interpret it ...but GOD be with us
I've been married to one and lived with 2 other Virgo males throughout my life. Get rid of him now! They are cold, heartless & selfish individuals. They seem to have 2 sides to them. A put-on side that is a great facade and the real side that just cannot be contented with ANYTHING! They are very indecisive and nothing is ever good enough for them for very long.
I AM MARRIED TO VIRGO. HE ARE VERY CRITICAL, COLD, LACKING EMPATHY AND SELFLISH. THIS IS TRUE. READ NARCISSIMCURED.COM FOR HELP.
I've been with a confusing virgo for 4 years. The bickering has escalated. It's literally always my fault. I can't communicate with him, at least, what is on my mind. Rather, I can't be myself without him hindering that in some way. For example, I like tuna, he says tuna is bad for you. I like milk, he says milk is bad for you. I tell him I will continue to eat and drink what I want. Then there's the trust issue. He doesn't trust me and is unable to forgive. He gets angry about petty things and when I confront him, he blames me and gets even more angry. I've stopped sleeping with him for 3 months, and have my own room. We live together unfortunately. I've told him that his negativity is toxic and asked him what does he get out of being that way. I'm an Aries and refuse to stay down, refuse to hold grudges and am assertive. I just leave him alone. He locks himself in his room. He pouts or whatever you call it. All of July we didn't speak. He never says I'm sorry. I always try and repair our relationship because we live together, but he's never made an effort to do the same. I've told him it's best that I move out because this situation is not good for either of us. As soon as I can, I will. There's definitely that push and pull thing which is a complete waste of my time. It kills the mojo. He knows it. I have no attraction to him because of all this bickering, blaming, and continually rehashing stuff from the past. I've told him to get over it. It's not applicable to the present and it won't be in the future. It's almost as if he gets a kick out of trying to make me feel like nothing. I feel that. When he has the opportunity to invalidate me, he does. I call him on it. Then I stop talking to him. I gave him back the engagement ring because I won't be treated like crap. He wants to be treated well, but he can't give the same. I was raised to give when I have it, so I do. He's as cheap as they come. I have this saying: cheap in the pocketbook, cheap at heart. He used to be generous and affectionate, now he's completely withholding everything, including respect. He's not feeling secure, acts immaturely, is not happy with his life and blames me. I'm happy with everything going on with my life except that we're living together. He looks for things to criticize me about or insult my interests. Again, it really kills anything good I have felt for him.
I AM CONFUSED BECAUSE IT SEEMS LIKE YOUR GUY IS LIVING AT MY HOUSE. THE IDENTICAL GUY. WELL I WILL TELL YOU THIS. I HAVE SPENT 18 YEARS TRING TO FIGURE HIM OUT AND REALLY HE WOULD PREFER FOR ME NOT TO KNOW HIM. I PROMISE YOU ARE FIGHTING AND UPHILL BATTLE THAT YOU WILL BE THE ONLY ONE WILLING TO PUT IN THE WORK. I AM MARRIED AND HAVE TWO CHILDREN SO I MUST STAY A FIGHT IT OUT. MY CHILDREN ARE COUNTING ON ME, WE ARE MARRIED SO I MADE A COMMITTMENT TO GOD BUT IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU SHOULD RUN!!! I AM AN AQUARIUS AND HAVE A DISIRE TO FIGURE THINGS OUT BUT THIS IS A HARD NUT. MY HUSBAND CAME WITH LOTS OF BAGGAGE OF BEING REJECTED AND ABUSED AS A CHILD. HE PRETENDED VERY WELL THAT HIS ISSUES HAD BEEN RESOLVED. THE TRUTH IS HE RATHER CHOOSE HIS PAIN AND SCARES OVER ME. HE HOLDS ON TO HIS PAIN BECAUSE IT IS ALL HE KNOWS. HIS PAST TAUGHT HIM TO NEVER TRUST AND HAS NO DESIRE TO BE TRANSPARENT. HE DOES NOT LOVE HIMSELF SO HE CAN'T REALLY LOVE AND CARE FOR ME THE WAY HE SHOULD. HE IS A NICE GUY, VERY HANDSOME SO ANYONE COULD BE TRICKED BY HIM. YOU MY DEAR HAVE OPTIONS. YOU GUY WILL REQUIRE A TON OF WORK. IF I NKNEW WHAT YOU KNOW NOW I WOULD HAVE NEVER MARRIED A MAN WHO HAS NOT SPENT YEARS WORKING THROUGH THESE ISSUES. HE NEEDS TO WORK ON HIM AND YOU NEED TO ASK YOURSELF HOW YOU GOT IN THIS SITUATION?
Don't press this guy for sentimentality. If he doesn't make a big deal about your relationship anniversary, remember all the little things he does day to day. He's got a steady nature and won't want too much drama. He likes order, routine and keeping his life under control. Get involved with his daily routine, and soon you'll be integrated into his life.
He's a true hermit, so don't force too much togetherness. His Sun sign destiny is to achieve self-containment, and this requires a lot of solitude. Give him the freedom to go off and do his own thing, and he'll keep coming back.
This has become so true in my relationship, I've noticed; I give him space and eventually he'll call. He always replies to my texts (because as a Scorpio I like to know what my partner is up to, if they're okay, at all times of the day) and he has become aware of my need for a tiny bit more emotional commitment, and as long as I don't press him for anything, we seem to have a mutual understanding of how to make it work between us. He doesn't like when people are super emotional, and that works for me because I have a Gemini Moon; all in all, I understand his need for self-containment now. I didn't in the beginning.
very enlightening, thank you, but theory and practice aren't always at peace with eachother... especially when my ascendant is Aries and his is Taurus... while my sun sign is Gemini... the attraction is (really) strong, but him playing hide and seek tires me... but who said life (love) is easy? :) If you love him, accept him for who he is... To me, he's charming and misterious, he makes my life exciting when he's around and also when he isn't around... pfew... I wouldn't say Virgo men are heartless, they are so sensitive and shy and romantic... and passionate and... they are just not relaxed enough, always judging, always using their mind... we are so different we felt eachother from the beggining, he called me "his butterfly" straight away... I asked him "how on Earth would you know that???" :) (me being a gemini I am in fact a colourful butterfly, with many exciting interests - poetry, sculpting, drawing, etc. and a restless mind), on the other hand I perceived him as a solid and reliable rock of Gibraltar... and believe me, the butterfly in me needs that rock around, at least from time to time... :)
I have been with a Virgo man for the last 4 years and he is as confusing as the day I met him, I don't know how I feel about him. I am a intelligent Sag and I am being rather patient, if it was not the fact that we had a son together he would be out of the door!! I am waiting for the day he rises and gives me what I want and desire. Please do not get me wrong, he is intelligent and a loyal man and I am proud of the way he adores our son! He is a good father, but he has never worked in the four years that we have been together I have always supported us. But I am getting itchy feet and do not know how much longer I can put up with this, please help me here!!!!
I'll explain it run...run far far away. These men are very great as friends but in relationships they lack loving affection and compassion..if you're looking for a steadfast relationship he can give it to you but he's just so self absorbed that its hard for anyone to get in
I am currently dating a Virgo man and he acts EXACTLY LIKE THAT HOLY CRAP. You give him attention, he plays hard to get, pulls away a bit and although he doesn't act cold, he is still very caring and attentive it is less so than I would hope for. If I ignore him he gets slightly needy, and I have no qualms with that- but I see the pattern and wonder if it is a Virgo aspect, or a man aspect.
Your problem isn't that he's a virgo...it's the word after virgo, that indicates the REAL problem...haha....sorry guys.
He sounds immature, to me....He reminds me of my husband....he wants all your attention....but, you best not get too close, or he'll start pushing you away......My husband has Borderline Personality Disorder, which these are symptoms of.....you might google that, and look at the symptoms....see if it totally fits your situation....
Grown up men (not boys in men's bodies) do not act this way.....
Not enough info to determine what the deal really is. I'm a Virgo and had the best relationships with other Virgos.
Virgos also do well with Taurus and Pisces. Your sign may not be compatible.
i'm not a virgo but i'm a guy and the 2 girls in my life had pretty much the same to say:
i was lonely and wanted attention but when they (each in their own time!) wanted to get too close, it turned out that i was not comfortable enough with them to be that open...
my way of dealing with that has been to wait and watch and try and spot the "right" one for me - the one who just naturally makes me comfortable, with whom there's no plastic shix...
if your relationship is worth the effort, try and get to like the stuff that your guy does or atleast understand why he does them, and allow him the chance to express himself (will be rare to start with) without reacting even if its the most random thing: you think random stuff too right, even if you don't always do it? so create your own set of rules where you are both your random selves in front of each other - create your own special comfort zone...
its easy giving advise but when it comes to my own relationships, it's not comfortable saying this exact same stuff, somehow...
We virgo men are not confusing or weird.... it's the rest of the world that is confusing and weird..... smiles
NARCISSIMCURED.COM...THIS IS YOUR ANSWER. IF YOU WANT TO SPEND YEARS OF YOUR LIFE TRING TO FIGURE SOMEBODY ELSE OUT WHO HAS NO INTEREST IN FIGURING YOU OUT. THIS IS MY LIFE.
Im dating a virgo ...i think they dnt really like their partner to be sad ..guyzz dnt put on soo much emotions ...if hes mad at u then u also fight show him some anger :@ n give him a litl space he alwez comes back ... He juzz overreacts in anger ...if u re wrong u simply apologize ..tell him u still want him ..n blow him off fo a while ..he l call u back aftr he cools down :)
Not sure how you deal with that! I'm dating one, we got in a fight and didn't talk for a week. Now were talking again and all is good but for how long? Generally, our signs would not be compatible. I am a cancer. But I think he likes the attention and I have a very caring, sweet nature to me. However I have to kind of mirror his behavior and not get emotional or clingy or he backs of and doesn't reciprocate anything.
Thoughts on this?
Sounds like he has a personal problem. Just sit down with him an talk to him say " whats wrong " if he backs off tell him this " They only way I can help you if you help me understand. "
I'm a Virgo but I'm open cause I want people to know who I am an plus I don't give **** what people say. Some people just need to get a thicker skin.