How to deal with pessimist parents sayin negative things abt life? I had a rlly sad past and i am suffering now
I always try..to..think. .positive..and..the..sad..part? is that they know.nothing abt me. ..im tired of being misjudged and i have this feeling of hate towards my dad...because he always acts like i have..to..b e..submissive to what he thinks...i..feel..disgusted
4 Answers to "How to deal with pessimist parents sayin negative things abt life? I had a rlly sad past and i am suffering now"
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You can choose how much contact you want with your family. There are options available to you.
If you are living in the family home you could move out, if you are in a position to do so.
If you're not able to move out, you could distance yourself by staying in your bedroom when you're at home, visit friends and family, develop interests outside the home. Focus more on your studies or work.
If you already live away from the family home you could limit your contact with your parents. You could stop physically visiting and maintain contact by telephone, email or letter. You can determine the frequency.
If your relationship is too damaging for you, you could decide not to have any contact with them at all.
You may have had a difficult past but you are not a victim, you are a survivor. If you continue to see yourself as a victim it will keep you thinking like you do not have any control. Do you have someone you can talk to about how you are feeling?Like (1)
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yes, i do have..my..bf.he..supports me..very..well.its..just..smetimes..i feel..like..i..cant .take....my..parents.anymore..and..sorry..for.the..dots..my..spacebar..is..broken
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Because you have recognised this pessimistic attitude in your family..deal with it..Read books, look into finding a way to learn how you can be an optmistic person.There are tapes available. and they do work. Go on line and google for infromation on self help programs concerning optimism.
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I always do that...but I..end/up..drowning in ocd and anxiety and pessimism...I rlly feel sometimes lik e I wanna disappear
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Disown them. They are toxic.
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Posted by onwayout Oct 25th, 2012 at 4:20PM
I feel your pain, and know exactly where you are coming from. Unfortunately, there are some parents who can never just be happy for their children and accept them 'as is'. You have to distant yourself from your parents, and work on your own self esteem. It will take time to build it up again, but you have to learn how to start tuning them out when they start in with their jabs and insulting behavior.
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