My son seems to be that way, but you watch closely. Sometimes I see that, although he argued and was rude, he is taking my advice. Keep the dialogue going and pick your battles. You can't always be on him.
Those people learn through personal failure. Words will never reach them.
You don't. You cannot help someone who doesn't want your help. Let him fall on his own arse
If he won't listen then it is a harsh lesson to learn but one he must.