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How to motivate yourself to study when your going through a heartbreak?

i have let him go because he is my friend's ex and i can't see past that. it breaks my heart and i just want to wallow in self pity but i have to do 3 assignments by the end of this week, how can i motivate myself. i was always a big procrastinator but now im having trouble even picking up my the specs... help me please!
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The break up is emotionally messing with ya and keeping you from studying....Try getting a friend with you to help you study....Maybe with sumone else around you want feel so bad
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Posted Aug 17th, 2009 at 11:53AM
Try to let the studying distract you and get your mind off of the guy. That can be hard at first, but it gets easier with time.

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Posted Aug 17th, 2009 at 11:16AM
I've been through this.. You need one word, FOCUS!!!! before you do something like that assignments etc. meditate first, get your mind and body work it together, dont let anything near you that remembers him, just focus okay?

goodluck :)
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Posted Aug 17th, 2009 at 11:17AM
I won't lie, it's not easy. One of the easiest ways is a keen sense of will power and cunning. When going through a series of low time during middle school, I couldn't seem to focus for studying or working on due projects and wallow in the anger and despair I felt at being hounded for being different.

So the way I found to work around it, is to aim for something. Find something you want to achieve, and remind yourself of the consequences that each step in life can have in faltering away from that goal. When that wasn't enough, I would immerse myself in work and lose myself in the work in order to forget that I was supposed to even be sad. If that didn't work, and it rarely didn't for me, I employed a tactic which requires the said cunning from earlier. The best way to describe it is physically moving yourself into the motion of getting the work done before your mind can catch up. This is effective, but it's difficult to reach the right 'blank' mind in order to achieve sometimes.

As I've said, these are but ideas that I have personally used.

Other tactics that come to mind are to ask for help from a close friend or acquaintence and allow them to prod you into at least starting the work and hopefully keeping you in line with it. You could even try, for much more long-term solutions, isolating yourself for a few days to work through your anguish and then to re-emerge into society and try to then get back into the swing of things.
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Posted Aug 17th, 2009 at 11:53AM
Try not to let the stuff get to you, and focus on the studies and getting them out of the way, then attempt to work things out with everyone and yourself. that's what I did when I was in a similar situation at least.
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Posted Aug 17th, 2009 at 11:53AM
It's tough, but you have to remember your priorities. Your heartbreak will still be there after your assignments are finished.

Maybe studying will take your mind off things?
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Posted Aug 17th, 2009 at 11:53AM
stop thinking of him!!you need a drink and a cool bathe with ice..lol. really!after the bathe challenge yourself to study.trust me
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Posted Aug 17th, 2009 at 10:58AM
hanging out with other friends and participating in more activities in-between studies may help get your mind off.
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Posted Aug 17th, 2009 at 11:02AM
Listen to Achy Breaky Heart.
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Posted Aug 17th, 2009 at 11:03AM
With great difficulty. Break up your tasks into as small of segments as possible. Write them down. Do one at a time and check them off. Sounds cold and methodical, but it works for me in the best and worst of times. This is one of the main differences between a child and an adult. The ability to do what must be done rather it is convenient of not.
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Posted Aug 17th, 2009 at 11:18AM
After reading your past question I feel you made the wrong choice. You should call him and be happy and then hit the books!
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Posted Aug 17th, 2009 at 11:34AM
plan your day thoroughly, hour by hour with meaningful breaks. follow the plan as if your life depended on it. reserve time for wallowing in between or during the breaks. this way you don't feel you are depriving yourself of feeling what you are feeling.
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Posted Aug 17th, 2009 at 12:09PM
Pin his picture to a dart board......take a break and stick it to him
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Posted Aug 17th, 2009 at 11:46PM
Study may be the best thing for your heartbreak. In fact try to get very involved in study and keep your mind busy. You may want to ask a friend to study with you or quiz you. If you ask a friend to go to the library with you and study it can take your mind off your heart break. Try not to be alone.
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