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How to say this? I have a younger sister who attempted suicide and who has mental health issues. Recently she attempted

suicide. My parents are in denial over it all and have been of no help at all.
I am the only one who has been supporting her but I feel completely out of my depth as well as very alone. I haven't spoken to anyone about this but want to tell a colleague. Yet, I am scared as to whether I will be judged or not or if my family will. I am also frightened of breaking down. Also, how are you just meant to come out with these things? Keeping it inside is driving me nuts-I need support and a hug but how to get it?

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  1. ruddlindsey - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by ruddlindsey May 1st, 2012 at 12:33PM

    She needs to be seen by a Doctor, and kudos on you supporting her and staying by her, but you really need to get her to a doctor to get her some help, this will ease some of your stress.... you need some type of support , don't worry about what People say or do at least your are TRYING to help her , if it wasn't for you , she would probably be in a worst situation... but DO what you can as soon as you can...this is gonna suck if it gets any worse or this will continue to eat up at you .... Hope things get better

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  2. Jenni855 - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by Jenni855 May 1st, 2012 at 12:31PM

    Thank you. Yes, I totally agree with you. Unfortunately as she is 18, it is something she has to do alone and decide to do.

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  3. ruddlindsey - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by ruddlindsey May 1st, 2012 at 12:35PM

    That is true, but their are ways to get her seen and she will have no choice... if she is this bad off she needs some help... and for you to be standing by her this long and helping her that is amazing, hard to find someone to do that... BUT maybe Please don't get mad, but you may need to put her in a institution for a little bit so she can get the help she needs....

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  4. DAVEY200011 - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by DAVEY200011 Aug 18th, 2012 at 11:11AM

    Your sister is an Adult you can offer to listen to go to a Doctor with her if she wants but its her choice, you need support I suggest something like the Samaritans or another mental health charity who will listen to how your sisters health affects you
    I have an older sister with shizophrenia & is not taking meds & she makes a lot of trouble in the past she has accused me of spying on her & once after an argument she told the police I had hit her the police pressured me to accept a caution but I got legal advice & went to court & at the last minute the case was dropped - very very stressful & it has affected my health

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  5. KingofSwords - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by KingofSwords May 1st, 2012 at 1:35PM

    It is good that you are being supportive of her. Many parents/adults are under the impression that mental illness should never be talked about or even acknowledged so they shun the possibility that someone they love could be suffering from it. Since your sister is an adult, she has to be the one to take charge of her life. There might be a slight trust factor between you two. She might think that you will tell your parents things that are going on with her. As long as you let your sister know that you will be there for her, that should be enough. You cannot force her to go see a doctor but you can offer to go with her if she would like you to be there. You setting an appointment for her to go could be seen as an act of trying to run her life for her something that parents are known for doing to their children. She has to be the one to take the steps necessary to seek help. Just make sure she knows that she can confide in you if she chooses to. I will pray for your family.

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  6. Jenni855 - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by Jenni855 May 1st, 2012 at 1:35PM

    Thank you very much. That is kind of you.

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  7. graceisgone - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by graceisgone May 1st, 2012 at 12:35PM

    unfortunately people will judge. but if u r comfortable confiding in this person then go ahead. i lost my brother to suicide nearly 3 years ago. after several attempts. i drove myself crazy with worry. and maybe just maybe u should seek some counseling yourself. it's very tramatic when a loved one is so desperate. that person needs help but take care of urself in the midst of it

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  8. Jenni855 - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by Jenni855 May 1st, 2012 at 12:37PM

    Thank you. I know what you mean, we can't control the way people may or may not judge-it's tough. I am sorry to hear about your brother. x

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  9. THEBIGM - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by THEBIGM May 1st, 2012 at 12:34PM

    Here's the HUG...
    now go get her the help that you know she needs. If she won't go with you, bring them to her. Even EP can provide support for you, but only YOU can help her get the help she needs..
    Good Luck

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  10. Jenni855 - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by Jenni855 May 1st, 2012 at 12:36PM

    But she is an adult? I cant force her to accept help.

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  11. THEBIGM - 46-50 years old - male

    Reply by THEBIGM May 1st, 2012 at 12:38PM

    Bring them to her. There are many volunteers who will gladly come home with you and see what you're dealing with... call somebody!

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  12. towhead2 - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by towhead2 May 1st, 2012 at 12:32PM

    She needs professional help and your support. It's a travesty when families do pull together in these situations. I hope you can keep things afloat. But remember you can only do so much. What your sister does is her responsibility.

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  13. Jenni855 - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by Jenni855 May 1st, 2012 at 12:33PM

    Yes, thank you. I understand it's her responsibility and I can only do so much. Thats the most frustrating thing.

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  14. 11MileRoad - 51-55 years old - female

    Posted by 11MileRoad May 1st, 2012 at 12:31PM

    Be there for her by just sitting and listening when she needs to talk, and be affectionate towards her with hugs and tell her you love her.

    AND find a friend you can let steam out with as well. Exercise and working out also helps.

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  15. Jenni855 - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by Jenni855 May 1st, 2012 at 12:34PM

    Thanks. It just gets hard always being there when I have no support myself.

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  16. oscarrr2 - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by oscarrr2 May 1st, 2012 at 12:29PM

    So **** if they judge you or your family , they aint gonna say it to your face..Go see a professional or it will eat you up

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  17. Jenni855 - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by Jenni855 May 1st, 2012 at 12:30PM

    I just need a friend, makes me sad when people suggest seeing a therapist as I have no-one in day to day life who I can openly share with or I do but have doubts about them.

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  18. energeez - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by energeez May 1st, 2012 at 12:28PM

    your 30 years old?

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  19. Jenni855 - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by Jenni855 May 1st, 2012 at 12:29PM

    No, 26. Why does it make a difference? I still deserve some support and a person I can chat to openly surely?

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  20. energeez - 31-35 years old - male

    Reply by energeez May 1st, 2012 at 12:30PM

    just seems your a little old to worry about being judged by your parents or hiding something.

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