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I'm 19 and I just had enough of my sister child and my cousins child. I'm not a kid person. I'm not fond of young children regardless of who has them. I been like this since 10 and it's not going to change. I love both kids but I don't want my life having to be revolve around them that's the parents job. I hate being responsible for children or having to care for them. I feel trapp. From the time I get up in the morning till night time I watch two kids I have no social life everything I need to do for myself I have to wait till someone is off. I miss all my doctors appointment all my important stuff. I'm tired of worrying about children that I didn't have. I been watching them for the last three years right now I need to get my life together. I want to get a job so I can start school but they want to revolve my job around their children. Don't get me wrong I don't mind helping out but it's overwhelming , emotionally and physically draining to deal with two young children daily all day. I don't see why I can't get a job and we can all put in money to send them to preschool. I want what's the best for my family as a whole but I need to help myself first. I'm responsible for myself. They act like I'm the only one who has to give up most of my life to watch kids. How the he'll will I be able to watch two young kids and a baby on the way when I don't even like young children. It's takes everything I have to deal with them. I think we need to have another alternative besides me. Also. I have depression and anxiety so sometimes it gets really bad I don't tell no one.
Islandprincess18 Islandprincess18 18-21, F 7 Answers Jul 19, 2012

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Wow. It is the parents who should be missing the doctors appointments and important stuff because they should be ones ultimately responsible for watching the children. It looks like they are taking advantage of you and that is not fair since you did not choose to have these children! <br />
I would simply tell them that you have a lot of things in your life coming up (job, school, other responsibilities) and you won't have time to watch the kids anymore. IF you are up to it I would say that on an occasional basis will you babysit but you can no longer do so daily. It would be helpful if you can give them a good amount of notice (2 weeks is about right) for them to make other arrangements.<br />
Best of luck!

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I know sometimes I will have to watch them but this daily stuff is starting to take a toll on me. I can understand one of them but two is too much. I just feel they taking advantage of me. Everything in my life is about their children. I don't have children. I'll be 20 just now what have I accomplish nothing because I can't do anything I always have two kids to think about everyday.

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yes I totally agree with you and i feel it is time to sit down with your parents and ask them nicely that you are having issues with family members and want to make everyone happy but you have to get your life started and you want to buy your own insurance and buy a car and get on your feet so it's going to take me hours of hard work to earn this ! you can not keep baby sitting and not getting paid and parents are paying 40 dollars a child and your not receiving anything!

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I understand how you feel. I am 60 years old now and for the past five years I have babysit my great niece off and on. My family seems to think that since I am retired, I am just here to be an on-call babysitter. I have worked my entire life so that I could retire one day and only do what makes me happy. I just had my first vacation ever last year. I planned on taking classes, volunteering for animal rescues, maybe having foster dogs, reading, and just staying at home doing things around the house and spending time with my animals. Nothing has worked out the way that I thought it would. I feel as if I might as well just go back to work. I'm angry and resentful and I'm even feeling angry with my five year old niece and it's not her fault. Why do people assume that when you don't work, you are just there for them to call on whenever they need anything?

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Im in the same boat. I moved to be close to my family and since I got here, I've basically been an on- call babysitter. this is everyday with two kids and sometimes another relative will drop their kid off too and it is too much. I came here to change and have a new life and im just miserable. If i say anything I'll be regarded as lazy and selfish for not helping and keeping that time to myself. Im also angry and feeling resentful and bitter and its not their fault. Its annoying that even when i have a day or two to myself which is their days off, they also try to go out and have fun and oh would U mind looking after them for a bit? Like No! What sucks is that im family so im supposed to be overjoyed and do it for free and be selfless with my time. Sorry I needed to rant.

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i'm not a babysitter by trade okay!!!!!

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Just tell them.....sometimes as a parent you become complacent and rely on family with because they are family. Stress the fact that you love your sister and your niece but need to invest more time in getting your life....school, job etc......on track. Tell them exactly what time you're willing to invest and give them a time limit by which they have to have new childcare in place. Good luck.

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