How to tell my family I'm tired of babysitting venting don't be rude
I'm 19 and I just had enough of my sister child and my cousins child. I'm not a kid person. I'm not fond of young children regardless of who has them. I been like this since 10 and it's not going to change. I love both kids but I don't want my life having to be revolve around them that's the parents job. I hate being responsible for children or having to care for them. I feel trapp. From the time I get up in the morning till night time I watch two kids I have no social life everything I need to do for myself I have to wait till someone is off. I miss all my doctors appointment all my important stuff. I'm tired of
worrying about children that I didn't have. I been watching them for the last
three years right now I need to get my life together. I want to get a job so I
can start school but they want to revolve my job around their children. Don't
get me wrong I don't mind helping out but it's overwhelming , emotionally
and physically draining to deal with two young children daily all day. I don't see why I can't get a job and we can all put in money to send them to preschool. I want what's the best for my family as a whole but I need to help myself first. I'm responsible for myself. They act like I'm the only one who has to give up most of my life to watch kids. How the he'll will I be able to watch two young kids and a baby on the way when I don't even like young children. It's takes everything I have to deal with them. I think we need to have another alternative besides me. Also. I have depression and anxiety so sometimes it gets really bad I don't tell no one.
7 Answers to "How to tell my family I'm tired of babysitting venting don't be rude"
Posted by 3grnowl Jul 19th, 2012 at 11:59AM
Wow. It is the parents who should be missing the doctors appointments and important stuff because they should be ones ultimately responsible for watching the children. It looks like they are taking advantage of you and that is not fair since you did not choose to have these children!
I would simply tell them that you have a lot of things in your life coming up (job, school, other responsibilities) and you won't have time to watch the kids anymore. IF you are up to it I would say that on an occasional basis will you babysit but you can no longer do so daily. It would be helpful if you can give them a good amount of notice (2 weeks is about right) for them to make other arrangements.
Best of luck!
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Reply by Islandprincess18 Jul 19th, 2012 at 12:12PM
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Posted by kimdrum Nov 6th, 2012 at 5:53PM
yes I totally agree with you and i feel it is time to sit down with your parents and ask them nicely that you are having issues with family members and want to make everyone happy but you have to get your life started and you want to buy your own insurance and buy a car and get on your feet so it's going to take me hours of hard work to earn this ! you can not keep baby sitting and not getting paid and parents are paying 40 dollars a child and your not receiving anything!
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Posted by oldandverytired Aug 17th, 2012 at 8:08AM
I understand how you feel. I am 60 years old now and for the past five years I have babysit my great niece off and on. My family seems to think that since I am retired, I am just here to be an on-call babysitter. I have worked my entire life so that I could retire one day and only do what makes me happy. I just had my first vacation ever last year. I planned on taking classes, volunteering for animal rescues, maybe having foster dogs, reading, and just staying at home doing things around the house and spending time with my animals. Nothing has worked out the way that I thought it would. I feel as if I might as well just go back to work. I'm angry and resentful and I'm even feeling angry with my five year old niece and it's not her fault. Why do people assume that when you don't work, you are just there for them to call on whenever they need anything?
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Posted by sawdustforbrains Jul 19th, 2012 at 1:31PM
they should be revolving their lives around the children, they shouldn't have had children they cant look after.
that's what nurseries/daycare is for. tell them you are looking for work and they will have to find alternative child care, don't ask, get them telt
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Reply by Islandprincess18 Jul 19th, 2012 at 12:17PM
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Posted by secret81 Jul 19th, 2012 at 12:40PM
i'm not a babysitter by trade okay!!!!!
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Posted by rudedevil01 Jul 19th, 2012 at 12:14PM
"**** you look after your own kids"
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Reply by Islandprincess18 Jul 19th, 2012 at 12:26PM
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Posted by blackarcher Jul 19th, 2012 at 12:07PM
Just tell them.....sometimes as a parent you become complacent and rely on family with because they are family. Stress the fact that you love your sister and your niece but need to invest more time in getting your life....school, job etc......on track. Tell them exactly what time you're willing to invest and give them a time limit by which they have to have new childcare in place. Good luck.
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