That's a tough one Diaphane. My wife left me for my best friend around eleven years ago. I would have taken a bullet for either one of them. I was really messed up for years.<br />
I guess somewhere down the line I decided that my life is better when I trust people. I'm very open and trusting until someone gives me reason to regret my trust. At that point, I'm done. It feels much better to me to be able, in my mind, to move on when trust has been breached.<br />
As painful and dramatic as the break-up was, as yourself if you were a better and happier person when you took men at their word. If the answer is yes, keep trusting until you find the man who deserves it.
I dont trust you enough to tell you.