Just be honest. No-one appreciates being led up the garden path on anything.
She probably should have figured that out BEFORE he had the operation.
Same way you ask anyone else, you find mutual interest to talk about, and ask him out to dinner. Trans women tend to have to focus on progressive guys who understand gender politics, tohugh.
I've never figured out which is a trans woman. Is that someone that was born a male and elected to be a woman or the other way around?
Thanks for clearing that up.
show him your **** then your know lol