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My husband read my journal last night. I feel angry and hurt. He thinks its unreasonable that I feel this way.

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  1. Blondeangelmom - 56-60 years old - female

    Posted by Blondeangelmom Dec 11th, 2012 at 6:47PM

    I think it was wrong of him to read it without asking you first..I'd be upset...

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  2. iamunlovable - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by iamunlovable Dec 11th, 2012 at 2:29PM

    It depends on how much trust there is between you. If you're hiding something and he's going stir crazy because he knows somthing is going on, then in my opinion he has a point but it's still wrong to invalidate you that way. Otherwise, he has broken your trust in him. I see this is definitely a crisis of trust and should be handled seriously and delicately.

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  3. wander099 - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by wander099 Dec 11th, 2012 at 12:39PM

    I would be extremely angry because if someone read my diary it would be a huge violation of my privacy and I would never trust them completely again. Also the fact that they cannot admit that it was wrong to do so would **** me off further. Eventually I forgive people who admit wrongdoing, make amends, and change, but I cannot stand those who claim that their immoral behaviour is perfectly fine.

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  4. FreakyNature - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by FreakyNature Dec 11th, 2012 at 12:38PM

    Journal..diary..whatever you document in for your deepest thoughts, feelings, secrets, etc, should not be read by anyone else but you. That's just like going into someones phone without permission. He did not ask to look or just read an entry from it. Your husband did not have the right to do that. I bet if he had a journal, he wouldn't want you rummaging in it.

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  5. MmmBabi - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by MmmBabi Dec 11th, 2012 at 12:36PM

    Wow, I would feel soooo violated. Those are private thoughts.

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  6. NotAnyBody - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by NotAnyBody Dec 11th, 2012 at 12:35PM

    He's being unreasonable, and he knows it. He owes you an apology, and he needs to let you know that he understands that marriage doesn't cancel out your right to some privacy. He needs to understand that he has betrayed your trust, and he needs to understand what a huge deal that is. I would suggest getting 2 new journals, one for writing about how this betrayal makes you feel, and leave it where you used to, so that he reads it, and another journal and a new hiding place, because he's let you know that he can't be trusted to respect you. Either that, or take compromising photos of him and post them online. Let him know what lack of privacy feels like.

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  7. MyMask - 16-17 years old - female

    Posted by MyMask Dec 11th, 2012 at 12:31PM

    You know what they say, never write something down you wouldn't want anyone to read.
    But then again, he is your husband, you can tell him everything, so I doubt any secrets were unveiled.
    I really think he should say sorry. I would feel hurt and get mad, because it is my private property where I write down my thoughts. If he had asked, it would be different.
    You should explain to him why it hurt you :)

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  8. Lonely5223 - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by Lonely5223 Dec 11th, 2012 at 12:30PM

    Even though it may have hurt his feelings, it's important that he knows how you feel. If he cares enough he will work on the issues with you.

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  9. truthseeker28 - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by truthseeker28 Dec 11th, 2012 at 12:31PM

    yes but was he wrong?

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  10. Lonely5223 - 36-40 years old - male

    Reply by Lonely5223 Dec 11th, 2012 at 12:53PM

    I agree you are entitled to have privacy.

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  11. redneck123 - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by redneck123 Dec 11th, 2012 at 12:28PM

    lesson here ... never write anything down that you dont want read

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  12. truthseeker28 - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by truthseeker28 Dec 11th, 2012 at 12:30PM

    so he did nothing wrong in your mind because that is ****** up.

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  13. cpgnatly - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by cpgnatly Dec 11th, 2012 at 12:28PM

    Heh, paranoid hubby. Good luck. He's a moron.

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