How would you of handled it?

If someone close to you says that they would like to talk to you about things they've heard you say to others about them and then they come to your house with a 5 page letter insulting you with exaggerated offensive remarks before you even know what was said..........how would you of handled that???? Remember you don't know what was said but here is this person in your personal space calling you all kinds of names and bringing all your bad points out before she even tells you what she's heard.

Edit: Just to add that I wanted so badly to resolve what the issue was but she wouldn't let me talk and to date I have anxiety over the words she said to me and for days I didn't sleep. I did write her a 4 page letter back after she left which helped me a little and I felt better give her back a little of her own medicine. I told her how anal she was and how she was there to play the victim and prove that she right instead of wanting to resolve the issue.

Posted 2 months ago

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I'm sorry to hear that your friend handled this situation so badly. I have had similar things happen, and I have seen similar things happen to other people.

Unfortunately, when someone reacts so harshly, they automatically are wrong for not letting you tell your side of the story before they jump to conclusions. If you don't know why they are mad, then you can't be responsible for their anger.

At this point I've learned that the most effective thing to do is to cut them off early and let them know that they are either going to have to tell you what happened, so you can talk it out and give your side of the story; or they can get out.... but you will NOT tolerate them being abusive towards you.

...and you have to mean it.

Best of luck babe. Unfortunately. sometimes people we care about turn out to be no good for us--but not everyone is like that.

Posted 2 months ago

Other 8 Answers to How would you of handled it?

MystyMadness	Posted Sep 12th, 2009 at 5:48PM I would gently take her arm, lead her to the front door, open it and throw her out! Rated: +5Vote for this!
MissSedana	Posted Sep 12th, 2009 at 5:49PM I've had this happen to me...I know this 50yr lady who was a close friend for years...she did this to me and I realized that she was "using a lie the get the truth"?...I would tell you that this person is a HOT HEAD and is too quick to trust others when you probably are their only friend...this is God working someone unhealthy out of your life... Rated: +3Vote for this!
MiniBryant	Posted Sep 12th, 2009 at 5:49PM I personally wouldn't care because I am aware of the things I have and have not said. Why would I be offended by someone else's misunderstanding of me. Talking it out is fine. Hate does not offend me. UNECESSARY Violence does but not hateful thoughts. I wouldn't even worry about it. If they got agressive and started yelling and making threats then I would probably stab them in the throat and not think twice about it but that after I give warning. Make my day is what I would tell them. They are on your property harrassing you , anything goes. lol Rated: +2Vote for this!
amystarclear	Posted Sep 12th, 2009 at 4:06PM I second MystyMadness's opinion. Disconnect from this person! Ick! Create as much emotional and physical distance from her as possible. Rated: +2Vote for this!
NiceNMyWorld	Posted Sep 12th, 2009 at 3:31PM I would tell them to SLOW DOWN and help me figure out the facts first! If all they want is to accuse without telling you what they are accusing you OF, well, I'd ask them to come back when they calm down- and show them the door. Rated: +1Vote for this!
becki09	Posted Sep 12th, 2009 at 3:32PM ooh thats harsh lol i would wait until my friend had calmed down then ring her later and see if she was up for letting me do the talking yet. Rated: +1Vote for this!
axeman66	Posted Sep 12th, 2009 at 4:09PM you should just let this one go. Rated: +1Vote for this!
SummerWind18	Posted Sep 12th, 2009 at 6:17PM I would tell them to calm down. I've been in their shoes. i would KNOW, not even assume but KNOW someone had been spreading rumors about me to get that kind of action, and tell my friend who wrote me the letter, do not be so naiive and gullible as to believe everything you hear. I would read the letter, and try to find out where they have gotten this info. Under no conditions would I be harsh to them, I would tell them HOLD ON a minute don't jump to conclusions and stop being my friend. Stop screaming. Just stand still. We need to sort out the bullshit and lies from the truth here, you are being played and so am I, BOTH of us are being messed with and one thing is for sure--there is someone out there who hates me and is trying to make you hate me to hurt me because they know you are my friend. If I read the letter, I may be able to figure out who was spreading gossip and me and my friend together can go confront that ******* and expose their lies and destructive libel to everyone we know. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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