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My boyfriend who I LOVE and have been dating for a lonng time knows I want to get married and I have told him several months ago that I can't wait forever for him to make up his mind. We have been talking about moving in together, buying a house together, etc. Anyway, last night out of the blue he tells me that I am stressed out because I want to get married and that I want to have that security of a marriage relationship and he puts his one arm up and then he puts the other arm up and says but you are here (indicating there is this huge distance between the two). He explained that I am stressed and upset because I am not happy where I am at and can�t get to where I want. Then he stated that he is okay where he is at because we are together, he is healthy and working so he has none of the conflict I am experiencing. Then he said plus you have kids to take care of and raise and I don't. He only sees his kids once in a while. Then he left it at that went to the bathroom and I rolled over and cried. Not long after that he asked me how he is doing as a boyfriend, I told him I didn�t know because I didn�t want him to know how upset I was. Am I over reacting?

The short answer is no, you are not over-reacting.
Sit romeo down and ask why he's ok with moving in and purchasing a house together but not with marrying you.
I think the problem you're running into is your internal alarm bells are going off but you don't want to listen.

*He doesn't have a lot to do with his kids (I'm guessing from a prior relationship) and he sites you having kids as basically a liability he doesn't have to deal with.

*He says you're way over-stressed about life but he's just fine and dandy.

Ok - this shows his ability to love and commit is way out of wack. Sounds like he wants the benefits of a partner without the responsibilities of one. If he were 'way over-stressed about life' would you be 'fine and dandy'? If he treats his kids with this kind of non-commital attitude where does that leave your kids in his eyes if you want a long term relationship?

He's being downright selfish to believe that in what is supposed to be a partnership he has no responsibility to see that your emotional needs are met as much as his own. I don't know how long lonng is but I think you need to re-evaluate if this guy is right for you. Try your head instead of your heart. AKA did you fall for the sweater that was two sizes too small?