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You're in a bad situation. Kind of the outsider, if you will, because these aren't your grandchildren. It's a touchy thing, to try and set rules, for kids who are not your biological family, however, this is your house, too.

But, Grandpa should be the one who has a talk with sonnyboy.....there's no reason why he can't work, I assume....so, to sit around and tolerate his aloofness, is a huge mistake....

His record indicates he's made some poor choices in his life, so maybe encouraging him into counseling would be a good first step....

Secondly, Grandpa should set a time limit, for him to find a job, and let him know there are no free rides in life...he'd be teaching him an invaluable lesson....

Next, you and Grandpa need to be in sync....you back each other up....one whiff that the two of you are divided, and he will play that to the max....

I'm sorry, that when you should be enjoying your senior years, you are in the situation, where you feel responsible for this kid....

Bu, he's old enough to start taking care of himself, and just in case he hasn't gotten that knowledge from his parents, you and Grandpa can set him on the right road....good luck.