I am 20 years old, I just found out that I'm pregnant, and my baby's father is abusive. What should I do?
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Posted by knel123 Aug 20th, 2012 at 11:04PM
get an abortion and get away from him
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Reply by Sassysprite Aug 20th, 2012 at 11:09PM
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Reply by knel123 Aug 20th, 2012 at 11:10PM
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Posted by Neuroticrabbit Aug 20th, 2012 at 11:12PM
First and foremost, get away from the father. Then, decide whether you'll get an abortion, keep the baby, or give it up for adoption. If I were you, I'd get an abortion. Having to take care of a child that you weren't ready for can be a nightmare, and giving up a baby for adoption can be extremely painful if you feel attached to it.
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Posted by Myalee Jan 25th, 2013 at 8:23PM
Firstly, leave your partner because you won't be able to function properly and make the best decision for yourself while he does your head in. Are you strong and ready for it? I hope so.
If you manage to do that, think about what you want to do next. If you keep the child, you and your ex partner will be tied together cuz of the child. Some fathers gets parental rights even if he is abusive and the court mite say you still have to give him parents rights. If you give up the baby for adoption, he may still be eligable to have the child himself. (some courts are dumb sometimes ) but if you have the T, the tie would be gone and you'll be able to move on properly without him.
Get counselling or advices from an expert to help you make the right decision. One tip, if you want to keep the baby, name the baby under your own SURNAME, NOT HIS.And don't tell him anything about your pregnancy even if you split up with him.
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Posted by youneeda Nov 24th, 2012 at 3:20PM
Since you asked: Seriously consider abortion ( better choice) or adoption immediately. A 20 yr old does NOT need a baby! Then , get birth control and go to school. Good luck.
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Posted by kraz13 Sep 19th, 2012 at 12:48PM
Leave him and have ure baby away from him
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Posted by ISCARIOT Sep 19th, 2012 at 11:59AM
Does the dad have life insurance with you as the beneficiary?
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Posted by quilty56 Aug 20th, 2012 at 11:55PM
Get away from him and have him sign away his paternal rights. If you don't want to raise the baby, let someone adopt it. There are many adoption agencies who are willing to help you through the process. That is a precious child you are carrying.
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Posted by BLACKTIGER75 Aug 20th, 2012 at 11:27PM
You and your baby come first. Leave him ASAP! And don't tell him that you're pregnant, either.
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Posted by Rolle2323 Aug 20th, 2012 at 11:24PM
You are so young, my poor, poor dear. Don't tell him you are pregnant. Leave and if you can go into hiding with a relative in another state, do so. I wouldn't counsel you that you have to keep the child, if you are too young to handle motherhood alone and jobless. You can always give the child for adoption. Get yourself as far away from that man as you can.
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Posted by coloco Aug 20th, 2012 at 11:16PM
get the hell away, don't say anything, keep the baby or don't, your choice, but get the hell away from him.
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Posted by NancyVee Aug 20th, 2012 at 11:13PM
Don't kill the baby, kill the relationship with the abusive guy you are involved with.
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Posted by maple10 Aug 20th, 2012 at 11:13PM
Of course it's a little late now but in the future don't have sex with abusive ********.
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Posted by Snapple10 Aug 20th, 2012 at 11:11PM
Your safety is the number one priority. Tell someone he is abusive and ask for help. You can always contact a crisis pregnancy center in your area. They will offer assistance and sometimes even lodging. Your boyfriend will not change. Leave as soon as possible.
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Posted by jo1m852 Aug 20th, 2012 at 11:06PM
Most important thing protect baby and you. Leave him
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Reply by Sassysprite Aug 20th, 2012 at 11:09PM
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