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I am 34 he is 22...what would you do?

Please assist... do I give into a young man that is so persistant. He is mature for his age, but I can't get past how old he actually is. When I first met him I thought he was older and after long conversation the age issue came up. I didn't think it would bother me, but I can't see a "relationship" with him but I partially feel I could have a fling.



I don't want to hurt his feelings, and yet I can't seem to meet someone my age that makes me laugh, smile and just have fun. My friends pick on me and call me a "cougar" which I don't want to be at All! We have hung out on few occasions. I just keep making excuses lately on why I can't see him.



So do I sleep with him and see what happens or just walk away???

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    CrystalEagle - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by CrystalEagle Jan 19th, 2012 at 3:28AM

    I'm 22, and I tell you .. walk away, he'll just use you .. hope you won't be forced to one day remembering what i said to you here ...

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  1. cristenie - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by cristenie Jan 19th, 2012 at 3:32AM

    Hmmm... kind of the lines I was thinking... except I am more afraid that I feel I am using him to get what I want out of it and toss him to the side when something more real walks into my life

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  2. LiquidSoul - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by LiquidSoul Jan 19th, 2012 at 3:34AM

    That depends on the type of woman she is. If she is insecure and makes the age difference too much of an issue, he will eventually think she's too old for him and treat her accordingly. Now if she's a secure woman that is comfortable in her own skin, then she's gonna call the shots. It's depends on how she handles it.

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  1. moonshine101 - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by moonshine101 Jan 19th, 2012 at 3:26AM

    enjoy it while he is yound and does not have the beer belly, snores, farts and is generally indecent...i predict maybe you have 3 good years left in him...hehehe

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  2. jazzyknickers - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by jazzyknickers Jan 19th, 2012 at 3:25AM

    Hes not that young ..age is just a number,you are hardly a cougar at 34 just make it clear that you only want a bit of fun or else its not fair to let him think you want more

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  3. NedKelly1 - male

    Reply by NedKelly1 Jan 19th, 2012 at 3:49AM

    But she could be a MILF - lol

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  4. jazzyknickers - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by jazzyknickers Jan 19th, 2012 at 3:51AM

    exactly ..she could

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  5. TheRealSteve - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by TheRealSteve Jan 19th, 2012 at 4:03AM

    What's the problem? I'm 32 and my girlfriend is 22 and weve been together since she was 16 and were as happy as ever.

    The only thing to consider is that you've got to remember that they are very young still and will want to do things that people their age do, it's easy to forget that you had that time and they havn't and they are entitled to it and no expected to behave as old as you are as i'm sure your thinking about slowing and settling now, somebody of 22 can't even imagine where they will be in 5 years from now as their life upto that point has changed so much in such a short space of time.

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  6. msalisaa - 22-25 years old

    Reply by msalisaa Jan 24th, 2012 at 9:35PM

    I wish my 32 year old bf is as understanding as you!

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  7. vince3220 - 56-60 years old

    Posted by vince3220 Jan 19th, 2012 at 3:35AM

    Have a fling! You won't die! And it wont be the last time he gets his feelings hurt! Or yours for that matter!
    Live life,have fun! Good luck!

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  8. josie6511 - 41-45 years old

    Posted by josie6511 Jan 24th, 2012 at 9:15AM

    well I'm married to the guy that was supposed to b my f buddy he was 23 and I was 36 at the time he too was very mature for his age and the truth is I'd rather have someone that treats me good than to worry about a number. he doesn't party or go out. but can still b immature at times and sometimes I feel like I'm a mom to him but we been together for 9 years now and still have a very good relationship. I did catch him talking to another woman online recently because he says I wasn't giving him enough attention but ended the minute I found out he is the most loving and caring man I've ever been with except for this one thing he did. so take it for what it's worth age doesn't matter as long as u guys r happy and having fun but b careful the young ones fall in love really easy

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  9. martini06 - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by martini06 Jan 19th, 2012 at 6:25AM

    Everyone needs at least one hater in their life...aka your friends. They wish they could have that young sexy thing. Life is short. You need to just do him, enjoy your time together however short or long and keep it moving.

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  10. NedKelly1 - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by NedKelly1 Jan 19th, 2012 at 3:50AM

    As long as both of you are happy who else cares

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  11. livingalone666 - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by livingalone666 Jan 19th, 2012 at 3:30AM

    well< as long as your not married, buy the big box of condoms at costco or box store, wash the sheets, take yiour vitamins, go out to eat(his treat) and load up on carbs, go home and wear his 22 yr old a$$ out! you cougar you!

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  12. bunnyhop49 - 56-60 years old - female

    Posted by bunnyhop49 Jan 26th, 2012 at 11:26PM

    I know what Id be doin!!!!!!!!!!!!1

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  13. bbwbellylover - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by bbwbellylover Jan 25th, 2012 at 1:08AM

    Well, had you not known his age, what would've done? I say "you only live once. Enjoy yourself while you're young".

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  14. brucechick - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by brucechick Jan 23rd, 2012 at 2:19PM

    I think it all depends on the relationship, I am 13 years younger then my boyfriend, and it was well and great when we started off and slowly and currently I am seeing his is much more settled in his life, and i am seeing that I am nowhere's near being at that point. Really take some time and do some soul searching before jumping into something of this nature

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  15. rooth81 - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by rooth81 Jan 22nd, 2012 at 5:21PM

    Dear 34 you can have sexual relationship with him but not often.But you should avoid marrying him.Have fine sexual relationship with him frequently , satisfy your sex ambition and leave him so that he will find a girl smaller than his age and marry her.It is not advisable to **** a small boy and marry.A 22 year boy will never think of his age and your age. He will be thinking of your Vagina and time to have sexual contact with any girl.

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  16. likealover - 26-30 years old

    Posted by likealover Jan 22nd, 2012 at 2:18PM

    Hmmm...I was with somebody 24. I felt the age gap even though it was not physically noticeable. he still wanted to go out and party. I want to get on with my career. I think this is what ate away at my security and confidence in myself. He was too young. I would have a fling with a young guy but not a commitment. I still love my ex and he still loves me but until I get my head around the age issue and his maturity I don't see a future. I am dating guys around my own age and I feel more secure. He wanted to marry me in actual fact but i said no as I have commitment issues and he has to live his life.

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  17. MantisReligiosa - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by MantisReligiosa Jan 21st, 2012 at 8:21PM

    if he acts nicely, and not like a teenage brat, I say go for it. Might turn out hot.

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  18. maninconn - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by maninconn Jan 21st, 2012 at 4:34PM

    12 years apart isn't so much! Go for it!

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  19. naturalartist - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by naturalartist Jan 20th, 2012 at 9:03PM

    how well do you two match up personally?

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  20. Jjeremy - 46-50 years old

    Posted by Jjeremy Jan 20th, 2012 at 3:53PM

    Lifes to short, get involved right away, let me know how it goes, good luck.

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  21. bijouxbroussard - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by bijouxbroussard Jan 19th, 2012 at 11:51PM

    34 is hardly a cougar, lol. Usually I worry that when there's a big gap in age two people might be at different points in their lives, but in fact I have two friends, very happily married; she initially described him exactly the way you do this gent: very persistent, unusually mature and one of the few who could make her laugh. He was 21, she was 31. 20 years and 3 children later, they're still going strong. So you just never know.

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  22. lorena1 - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by lorena1 Jan 19th, 2012 at 8:48AM

    I dated someone younger than I and didn't go so well. Usually men that age just want to have fun no matter what they say. Men tend to say and act the way you want them to so you can give up what they want. Good Luck!!

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