People in interracial marriages that are able to make it work with the extra burden of ob<x>jections from some in their own race are very strong individuals that listen to their heart and not others. <br />
People are people for the most part; one should not let skin color define their character, religion, politics, and love.
I am a white man married to a black woman. The sparks flew when we met and she is truly the love of my life. On top of that, I am American and she is from a Caribbean Island. Both families have been totally accepting and enjoy sharing cultures. DO we get looks sometimes? Yes...and we also tend to be overly affectionate in response....its us against the haters and we like that. lol I can't say that I have noticed any specific looks from black men, although several f her black friends (male and female) have asked her if a white an could truly make her happy (wink, wink)....she just laughs and says yes...she is more than happy with everything in our relationship! How could I not love this lady!?! Anyway....nothing superficial matters when you meet "the one".
I think that true love see's no race, religion, or sex...when you can experience that kind of love , you are truly blessed....some people live a whole life time and will never have it, and that's so sad.......My grandmother always said " never judge by someone's skin color , because we all bleed red" ....I would love to come down where you live and show the Klan my family......they would just die....We have white, black, Japanese, Dominican, Jewish, Italian, Irish and american Indian....or maybe you should just move up to philadelphia :) God luck on your journey and dont let the Haters get to you!!! Interracial couples really do have the most beautiful babies !!!!
if your relationship is ba<x>sed on love and mutual respect, that's all that matters
Well said! Well said!
My first husband was white, we endured "stuff" even one of the nurses at the hospital was less than enthusiastic about our relationship during my hospital stay after the birth of our child. He quickly put her in check. We did get the looks as we traveled but we chose to ignore them. If they were really obnoxious he would be overtly affectionate. Dating was difficult for both of us after the parting there were those black men to whom I was a sellout (we are not supposed to be with a white man - willingly). Likewise for him there were some white women who could not be with a man with a black child. He shared a painful experience with me of a woman he really liked and how she reacted when she had mistaken his son and nephew in his displayed photos<br />
And this excuse people use "you have to think about the children" is BS you have to LOVE your children and teach them to LOVE their unique ethnicity. Being all black or all white does not guarantee your acceptance by society or your race. All we can do is love who we love and do the very best we can as gardeners to nourish and protect that love.
I liked your comment about "you have to think about the children", but we must also not be blinded to the fact that children and teenagers are mean, and that children from interracial marriages are going to receive a lot of extra attention on the harassment side.
speaking of that "extra attention" my son once asked his white grandmother "if my mommie is black and my daddy is white what color does that make me?" she told him, "the best of both" and that was the answer he always gave to anyone who asked and it became the family "joke"... people who are special get extra attention. We didn't raise him to think he was better than anyone but that he was the best of both of us.
True. But teenagers and some adults (who should know better) will tease fat children, disabled children, acne-covered children, children who can't afford to buy good clothes for school. Teasing is a fact of life. The lesson here is, grow a backbone and REALIZE that your point of view matters!
You are so right! Teasing does exist and Point of view DOES matter. So we as parents of children who will become "enlightened" adults must instill in them a sense of self, self-worth, self-esteem, pride (not arrogance), expectations, responsibility, and accountability. WE as parents are charged with setting expectations and holding them accountable based off our points of view on what is good acceptable citizenry. I don't mean to imply that those actions are the cure all...my position is this, WE decided being "all black" or "all white" was not any more of a guarantee for a hassle-free childhood and not a more certain guarantee of harassment than any other potential for not fitting in such as: stuttering, big feet, skinny legs, cowlicks, coordination issues, religious affiliation, academic ineptitude...... We don't approach proposed child bearing giving any of those attributes consideration so should race be any different really? For us the answer the answer was "absolutely not".
I am a 60 year old white man . I find myself attracted to black women mostly because they seem to know better on how to treat a man. I have not crossed out white women but I believe black women have what it takes to treat a man properly.
The black woman is the most beautiful, sexy, sensual and honest to goodness hottest sexual partner I've ever had.
I'm hispanic dark skin (could easily pass for african american or mixed but i have an accent) and had a caucasian boyfriend and when we would go out sometimes i would get looks from people, mostly african american guys that "what the hell" look; it would get annoying sometimes. So what do i think of interracial relationships? as long as everyone involved is getting their needs meet, happy then good to go. Regardless, who other people ****/date it's not really my business.
Like who you like. Tell everybody else to **** off.
amen bro.ben :) lol <<i hear yeah :)
I've dated wht women... but I just can't see me marring outside my race . I think you have the right to do your thing and I'm not mad at u4 it, but I do hat to see blk men who suddenly come into $ and go get a wht girl.
I'm a black woman married to a white man also. He is b far the best thing that could have ever happened to me. people give us strange looks sometimes but we have been together for 6 years and don't even notice anymore. all that matters to us and our family is that we are happy and in a great healthy relationship. if u love your hubby then you will stick by him no matter what anyone says. it would be a shame to let racist people break love apart. just be safe down south. and remember the ONLY thoughts that matter on this earth are yours and your husbands (:
Do the children aways come out black----I gess I am curious about that or is like Thomas Jefferson---where the boy they had was white.
His slave Sally Hemmings was only a quarter African American.
If you are lucky enough to find love it should not make a difference. Be solid in your love no matter what color the other person is..Love shows no color!!!
I am a black woman engaged to a white man 20 yrs older than I am. I have dated all races he is not my first white man. I love this man because of who he is. Not his skin color. Yes he aim to please his chocolate drop
I think it is great that you are married to a white man, I am happy for you.. I have a couple of hispanic friends who are married/dating white men. They all have the same comments about how "most" white men are more affectionate, caring and loving.<br />
I am a black woman who is attracted to white men. I joined interracial dating central and encountered a bunch of horny weirdos. I am sure he is out there...
First of all I love interracial love, sex, culture, and any other thing interracial. I am going to be blunt, sex is alway good, but interracial sex feels better, whether you admit it or not.<br />
I was alway the guy that want to go to an event given by another culture and I did not care what it was, if it was different I was down. I want to see and experience with how how people perceived and interracted with each other not just blame white people for all race problem.<br />
***AM I THE ONLY ONE THAT LOVES THE CONTRAST IN SKIN COLOR AND HAIR WHEN IT COME TO INTERRACIAL SEX, I KNOW LOVE MATTERS BUT COME ON PEOPLE STOP ACTING LIKE ITS ALL ABOUT "THE LOVE". I LOVE THE TABOO TOO.
Good sex is good sex. Skin color does not play a part in over the top love-making. Truly, good sex start with an individuals mindset and ends with a persons sexual experience.
good sex ?? whats that ?? lol ( been so long now :( lol )
Hey I know what turns me on and I love the differents in contrast, culture, and mixing. Yeah good sex is good sex, but good interracial sex is better than good same race sex. Of course good same race sex is better that bad interracial sex...I'll give you that.
Whatever makes you happy. I am also married to a white man that has become a pain in my backside. At this point I view men the same. Laughter!
Hey, if you are happy and things are going well then wonderful.
As long as he loves you and you love him what the **** do you care what color he is? I am white and in love with a black woman that thinks so low of me that it depresses me, but I do not care what color her skin is....To me she is an angel. I wish she thought the same of me,,,I am totally in love with a black women...I am a white Irish Catholic with red hair.
Sad. Now life is funny! Here I am plotting and planning my long-term affair, and here is a man that loves his woman that can't love him back. Like Blackbarbie1987 "I hope she comes around and see how wonderful you are." I wish you the best for the coming months.
Be happy. My family is a melting pot of colors and cultures.
my brother is white and has a black girlfriend...i think it is most awesome....
I have no problem with that. You know you see a lot of **** with black men and white blond women. I personally like having sex with black women. I think there should be more **** of white guys and black women.