I am a nice guy i keep getting hurt by woman,why!!?

Well Look at yourself are you easy to get along? do you interrupt people when they talk? Are you very dull in a conversation? Do I dress poorly? do I have hygiene habits that aren't attractive? Do you treat women right. do you pay for everything on the first date. Are you .........ugly not that that is the most important thing.

This may sound cold, but you gotta have a take it or leave it attitude with women. Not a cold hearted jerk, mind you, but a persona of this is "me", take it or leave it.

If they leave, move on and don't waste six months or even another day. If they always leave, you may need to evaulate yourself and see if you need to make some changes.

I am married and not looking, but have done a bunch of studying up on women to try and figure out my wife. (Am on volume 9 of 1000). Women are amazingly complex, challenging creatures. Have some fun with this. Enjoy learning about them.

Some of the responses contain some good wisdom. Re-read emperorofcali's (with caution) and ann1989's posts to get what I am saying. Being a nice guy does not mean you are always available. Being too available says a whole lot about a man. Much of it not good at all...

Nice guys finish last

You might be confusing "boring" with "nice guy"

I would have to admit that back in the day, the bad boys were took up my interests. In my older age, finally being sick and tired of being sick and tired,
I have learned to sit back and watch and really look at what a man contributes to his family, friends, community and how he treats himself.
In contrast to a reply or 2 ahead of me...... a man should have his womans back but, a woman should have her man's back too.
I have wondered myself why we have to go thru so much before finding "THE ONE". Maybe it's so when we do find the one, we know how and how not to treat each other.

Just take a second to realise whats going on. Yes we live in a world with machines that fly and computers that can perform amazing tasks but the human mind and body has not evolved half as fast as the world around it.
We humans run on two basic principles.
1) to survive
2) to repreduce

Im not saying dont be a nice guy but realise that the nice guy isnt the fighter or protector that a not so nice guy can deminstrait.

Metaphoricaly
If you fall for these girls you are putting them up on a pedistoll or believing them to be a princess.
If that is the case then you need to be a knight.
a nice guy holds the door open (why the other dude runs of with his girl)
A knight batters threw and slays the dragon.

Be a nice guy but don't forget what you are.
Which is a man. To protect and look after the mother of your child.
Over hall your self-imagine and get some confidence.
The nice guy dosnt go in for the kiss, (how sweet) so the women is left thinking WTF.

Be nice but be a man(strength, confidence, lover, protector, fighter ext)

women go through the same thing. Your story sounds just like mine, and I am a girl! It can be very discouraging...I'm turning thirty and have yet to have that "ooomph" that it seems like everyone else has found. But you can't beat yourself up over it; you're probably choosing the wrong people, which is exactly my problem!I have never liked the "bad boy" (that's so early twenties!) but that's what I attract. So I feel your pain. I just choose not to think too much about it. Once you act like you don't care if you're single or not, people will want to be with you.

the women you are after are *******. sorry to say. but keep looking. she's right around the corner.

The same reason I'm having problems with guys. We just pick the wrong ones. We have no sense when it comes to relationships. Or we are just too nice.

You probably are trying to go after the women who like the "bad boys"...yawn...I know, cliche. Trust me, being nice is only a vice to those whose soul is like ice. (Just made that up :P)

Don't you mean WOMEN?

Not all women are like this. Be positive about life and women. You will surely get the women of your dreams. Just be the same the way you are.

i think they developed different taste and nice is old one...

As a fairly nice guy myself I can tell you with the utmost sincerity that the main reason you are getting hurt is because you're being a nice guy. Its not easy for me but the more un-nice I am to women the more successful and less hurt I am with them and by them. Sounds crazy but its true.

Maybe you have just not met the right one. She is out there somewhere. Not all women are *******. Some of us are actually nice. There are women who are nice but they like a little dirty boy in their man

You waited 6 months for a woman to kiss you and hold your hand?

And you wonder why you have it the way you do?

For one, you have alot of expectations. None of them are likely to come true, unless rape is an option for you. I'm not being mean here, but if you continue in this way, you're going to be one frustrated dude.

Might I suggest a complete overhaul of your self image? You're not a victim, and nice guys su(k. I hate to tell you that, but that's why you have the "luck" you do. it's not a case of "luck". It's a case of your sh1tty self esteem. Stop trying to present an image that everyone can see through. You have nothing to lose with humility. Get another dimension. Enough with thinking that women owe you jack-sh1t, because they don't.

Follow the above guidelines every day, and you will change. You will no longer be a Nice Guy. This is called the Beginning of a New You. You will have New Questions. When you do, post them here.

Good luck, my friend.

well sir let me explain things from a womans perspective. if you continue to be the guy who is always there, always has the girls back, always ready to protect and defend you are entering straight into friend teritory. don't wait for her to make the first move you go in and get that kiss. now i'm not saying to turn around and be a total **** head but listen. . it's highly possible that you've gotten into a routine of seeing the same types of women the ones who haven't been hurt yet by the ******** to know what a great guy they actually have with you. wait for that girl who has been hurt and knows the value of the nice guy. i know its hard to wait believe me but coming from the girl whos been hurt we could sure use some more nice guys out there... keep being true to yourself don't change for other people if you do you'll never get out alive

For some odd reason girls like when guys are mean to them.. it's rediculous. We lie to ourselves i've been in denial for a couple years now. When i say mean i don't mean complete *******. you don't want them hating you. but if your just nice tothem they get bored or sick of you.
if you want a relationship to last you act a little bit like a jerk and every once and a while suprise her by being spontanious and romantic randomly. girls love that kind of stuff trust me!

hope that helps.

maybe ur a lil too nice.. women don't like a guy who is too nice.. we like nice guys.. but too nice can be a lil boring.. me on the other hand.. i luv guys who are romantic.. but at times guys can be a lil more "soft" then i am.. i've been a tomboy most of my life.. but now i dress like a girl.. but i still have that tuffness tho.. so i don't want a man who's *** i can kick.. i want one who lets me know that if i cross the line he'd kick mine! ( not for real but u know what i mean) lol. maybe ur just going after the wrong girls.. just because u like the girl don't mean she's the one for u.. don't worry.. u'll find that one.. n u'll know it when u do.. don't give up.. n remember.. u have to go thru a lot of bad ones to get to the one that's right for u.. ;)