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I am a shy guy, and have trouble talking to girls. How can I get a girl to talk to me or get a girlfriend?

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12 Answers to "I am a shy guy, and have trouble talking to girls. How can I get a girl to talk to me or get a girlfriend?"

  1. avibot - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by avibot Mar 12th, 2012 at 11:56PM

    look for phone numbers on fb. call them but don't talk. just breathe hard

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  2. BuckarooBonzai - 51-55 years old - female

    Reply by BuckarooBonzai Mar 12th, 2012 at 11:59PM

    Great idea!

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  3. veronicacadena93 - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by veronicacadena93 Mar 13th, 2012 at 12:01AM

    HAHA, that made me laugh so hard. =) thanks for making my day.

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  4. BuckarooBonzai - 51-55 years old - female

    Posted by BuckarooBonzai Mar 12th, 2012 at 11:56PM

    $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

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  5. ThiefWhoHasHeart - 22-25 years old

    Posted by ThiefWhoHasHeart Mar 12th, 2012 at 11:56PM

    my, what a weird name you have...

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  6. Texanfan - 41-45 years old

    Posted by Texanfan Mar 13th, 2012 at 12:02AM

    Hi,

    I think you need to join a group where you have some interest in. Band, volunteer for something, church etc... Make sure the group you join includes women around your same age. By getting a regular meeting time be it weekly or a few days a week you will be able to talk with many different women some of who will be single some not but you can probably single out one of the single ones and start talking and hopefully a spark will fly. The main thing is to keep trying.

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  7. Riderz4Christ - 31-35 years old - male

    Reply by Riderz4Christ Mar 13th, 2012 at 12:05AM

    I totally agre with you texanfan thats a great idea for him....

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  8. Dan2189 - 13-15 years old

    Posted by Dan2189 Dec 4th, 2012 at 5:02PM

    I'm used to be shy but now iv had 5 girlfriends my tips are to just keep on a conversation if they start one or if u got a friend that is a girl hang around with her and let her introduce u to her friends

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  9. Ca4e - 13-15 years old

    Posted by Ca4e Dec 3rd, 2012 at 7:59PM

    Start a conversation like u would with a regular friend

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  10. Nick1989 - 22-25 years old

    Posted by Nick1989 Aug 29th, 2012 at 4:20PM

    Hi,

    My name is Nick. I am 23 years old and for as long as I can possibly remember, I've been a shy person (especially with women). I'm not going to lie, it sucks! I've lost out on so many opportunities it's not even fair. My shyness mainly stems from my EXTREMELY sheltered upbringing (when I say sheltered, I mean sheltered - I wasn't allowed to be out of my house later than midnight until college .... Ya, no freakin kidding) and being a naturally sensitive/shy person. To add to both of these, I was constantly bullied/belittled by EVERYONE growing up (classmates, one of my "supposed" best friends, and even my relatives). To be honest, life hasn't been kind to me at all. I deserve better than this!!! I just want what everybody else is entitled to - HAPPINESS! I've become so used to this bullshit that subconsciously I identified myself to being the "loser." The worst consequence of this was me blowing my chances with a female friend of mine who I'm pretty sure was into me about a year ago, but I was too afraid to show her and I didn't know how. Losing out on that one hurt me a lot. I started buying dating books on how to get with women in hopes of "getting it" but this actually backfired on me and caused me to not be myself. I was depressed over this for quite a while. In this time I also began to draw on how much I'd messed up in other areas of my life - money, school, etc. I wasn't enjoying life. I had become so obsessed in my "next step" that I couldn't even see what was right in front of me.

    Just recently however, I turned a new page in my life! I ditched ALL the b.s. books/CDs, really stopped and observed everything around me and just took a good look in the mirror - it was then I decided enough is enough! I can't live like this any more. I look around me, and I see everybody happy, free, enjoying their lives. I lost so much time being sad, angry, bitter, and frustrated that I nearly lost myself. I can't do that any more, I'M BETTER THAN THIS - and I know it.

    Look, I'm not writing this for sympathy, I just want to let people know - you're not alone and everything is going to be okay! I'd love nothing more than to get back what I lost but I know that's not going to happen unless fate itself wants it to. I want to meet somebody who compliments me and makes me happy to be with but ultimately I just want to LIVE!

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  11. Shmeggley - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by Shmeggley Mar 13th, 2012 at 12:20AM

    There's no getting around it. You're just going to have to speak up. Just don't put so much pressure on yourself. Try to have a conversation and see where it goes. Don't worry if you feel foolish. Everybody gets that feeling and there's no shame in it. Good luck.

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  12. petiterebel - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by petiterebel Mar 13th, 2012 at 12:05AM

    we like for guys to talk to us first. It makes us feel like weve achieved something haha, JUST TALK TO ONNE!

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  13. giochima - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by giochima Mar 12th, 2012 at 11:59PM

    first thing u do is tell them u r shy and u dont really know how to approach them ;) theyll do the talking from there

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  14. veronicacadena93 - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by veronicacadena93 Mar 13th, 2012 at 12:02AM

    Sometimes. Unless they're rude and like to see you look uncomfortable.

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  15. giochima - 22-25 years old - male

    Reply by giochima Mar 13th, 2012 at 12:05AM

    there are not bulletproof approches and i find that getting rejected is great practice

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  16. rizo11 - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by rizo11 Mar 12th, 2012 at 11:56PM

    start talking

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  17. veronicacadena93 - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by veronicacadena93 Mar 12th, 2012 at 11:56PM

    Well if you want you can talk to me and i can try to help you with your problem.

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  18. giochima - 22-25 years old - male

    Reply by giochima Mar 13th, 2012 at 12:00AM

    hem... im also shy.....

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  19. veronicacadena93 - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by veronicacadena93 Mar 13th, 2012 at 12:02AM

    lol

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