I am a former step-son who was a f-ing angel towards my step-mom compared to my friends towards their real moms, she felt the same as you anyways. You made one dumb ******* decision wedding yourself into an unpaid nanny/sex slave position. Get out now, move the **** out and go back to being girlfriend/boyfriend with your guy untill she goes away to college. You are in for hell if you don't. Neither of you needs the kind of bs that you're gonna put eachother through.
as a step mom,you can love and earn their respect,with honesty------having a uterus,does not make a mom---my mom was a beast------i would rather have had a stepmom-----or no mom------good luck------
Take a breather and just accept it. She probably hated you before she ever met you, so at least it's not entirely personal.
You as the adult have to make an effort to
form a friendship with her, she did not ask for
you in her life. She is a child. Children do things
but there is always a reason. I suggest you start forming
a better connection with her, what dos she like, what
is her hobby's, actually get involved with her. If there
is issues your partner her father needs to talk her. What has
she done that is so bad? It is hard enough for children to
adjust to someone else, take into consideration you are the
adult, the secret here is communication and finding a common
ground. Seriously you all should sit and talk about the concerns,
and find a way to solve them. Say what can i do to better this relationship,
it counts for all of you.
IF you are asking here first before asking your husband your current marriage is going to fail. Cut yourself loose now is my advice.