Find a really good therapist, then - therapy, therapy and MORE therapy!! Good luck to you. Been there, done that, have the T-shirt. You are not alone.
Consensus that its not easy. Try to remember the person you were before him. Someone that had friends, family, and those people loved and cared about you before you meet him and YOU DID OKAY before he came along. The more you remember the stronger you'll become in finding the person before all of this. Its not easy but you survived without him before YOU CAN DO IT AGAIN. JUST REMEMBER!!!!!
You need to be de-programmed. You must have been so much better than he was for him to have to do that to you to keep you with him. Funny how that works. There are many domestic violence shelters that offer counseling, both individual and group.
How you recover may be a personal experience. I could give you a whole slew of what NOT to do though. :) Good luck finding your way.
Don't let the bastard get you down.
*hugs* I wish I had an answer for you. I've been living through the same thing for 18 years now. It's such a hard thing to live & I always feel like there's noone else that can understand it, as I'm sure you do too. I hope thongs get better for you & if you ever need anyone to talk to, I'm here. I don't have any answers but I do understand what you're going through.
It's a slow process but you'll get there. I agree with everyone who has said that therapy is a good start. I've been there and done that so if you feel like you need to talk, feel free to email me. Also, keep in mind that the junk that they said was more about them then about you.
what time shall i pick u up?.
getting back on the horse. not everyones an a ssholio