That's why he's your ex.
Amazing that the brothers cannot even talk to each other -- it shows a dysfunction in that family . You are right, your ex is acting poorly and it is hard to justify under any circumstances. Offer your house to your ex-BIL and then stay out of the mess.
You sound well grounded and are moving on well. Bravo for you!
Don't dwell on this, okay? Note it and move on. Don't use it as an excuse to 'hate on' your ex. For your sake, detangle yourself.
sounds like the soon-to-be-ex is trying to please the gf that is living with him. which is so wrong.
empty sounds about right. and even though you are in process of a divorce, it's pretty tacky of her to move in with him. he is still married. but if he did it to you, he will do it to her. i really feel sorry for his brother. i don't care what the situation, if my family came to see they would stay in my house!!
i'm glad you're moving on. you are too good for him anyway. as far as the kids, just be there for them to show them how decent people live. they will learn from you.
Those people are miserable?..i dunno..my best guess.:-)
what did they, he, she, it do now?