I am in a committed relationship but I have developed a crush on someone else. Has this happened to you? How to deal?
7 Answers to "I am in a committed relationship but I have developed a crush on someone else. Has this happened to you? How to deal?"
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I swear to God you are the very first person it's happened to! I think it's because you sold your soul to the Devil, youngie!!!
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No one cares where you get your appetite, so long as you always go home to satisfy it.
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Its tough, happened to me. I got so close to wrecking my relationship i had to quit that job.
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Crushes are temporary, it happens, just don't act on it. Put it out of your mind and focus on the relationship you have, or else end your relationship and pursue your crush... you will never be happy though.
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Yes, but it was just that I was married ( but the marriage was over ) we just lived together still. Well I admired from afar, did not act on it. I did not want to be with someone who thought it was OK I lived with my husband and shared the bed, even though no sex was ever happening between us. Plus, that old saying, don't **** where you eat, never had a work ba
sed fling, not a good idea, horrible if it all goes wrong. Like (1)
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I've had this happen... more than once.
You need to figure out now, before any action is taken, what and who is important to you.
Are you serious about this relationship you are in? (I understand you've been together a while, but it doesn't mean you see them as "the one.")
If you are, and you wouldn't want anything to ruin the relationship, then get this 'crush' under control quickly.
Make sure you are very aware of your feelings, try not to spend too much time with the person, and don't spend time alone with them.
You may think "what's the harm?" but believe me - if you have feelings for them of any kind, EVENTUALLY one of you will act on them, unless you are in control and aware at all times.
The only way you can continue a friendship or relationship (of any sort, proffessional or otherwise, since you see them daily) is to be very on-the-ball and not let your emotions take you over; it can take just one weak moment to make a mistake with this person and ruin your current relationship.
Otherwise, if you aren't that serious about the future of the person you are currently with, then go with whatever and don't think too much about it. Just don't act on anything till you end things with your bf.
And if the thought of those words (ending it) upset you, then DON'T make the mistake of being naive about this crush - get it under control ;)
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Posted by annikin Apr 10th, 2012 at 8:55AM
crushes come and go. A husband is for life.
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