I am newly married ( 6 weeks) and I am 7 months pregnant. he has kicked me out , no money , no where to go. w?

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Here's what you do, because this jerk deserves nothing but the meanest.
Wait for him to leave the house, know where he is going, and when he will be back. Get to the courthouse and file a Temporary Restraining Order against abuse. Go back to the house and lock the door. When he comes home give him the restraining order through the door's mail slot, or chain the door and slide it out that way. or slide it under the door, the key is, don't let him in, but be sure he gets the papers. If you know he's gonna be somewhere a while, like at work, you can have him served there. Tell him to leave now or he will be in violation of the court order, and call the police.
When they get there, they will see a pregnant woman with a restraining order against abuse, and a husband trying to get into the house. They will force him to leave and the house is yours until the divorce, which, if you play your cards right can last about as long as you want it to. There are legal tricks to make the procedure take longer, while it's going on you can't be kicked out of the house. You might even get awarded the house in the divorce, but since it is pre-marital property you probably won't. Unless you bought it together. Either way, this will buy you enough time to get into the system for food stamps, medical care, section 8 housing, and such. If you have a job, you can start saving up for your own house, or apartment, if not, you will be able to use low income housing. If you're able to work, do so, if not, seek a way to get on Social Security. But step 2 (after getting him away from the house and you) is getting a good lawyer and a social worker, (many lawyers will work Pro Bono) and your case would certainly draw sympathy from the court and from pro bono lawyers.
Fight him to the end, don't give him an inch, fight him to the bloody end.

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Other 16 Answers to I am newly married ( 6 weeks) and I am 7 months pregnant. he has kicked me out , no money , no where to go. w?

Lushesb	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM Sweetie being that you have only been married 6 weeks, check to see if you can have it annulled before you file divorce because it's cheaper, easier and faster. Most states have a timeframe within which you can file for an annullment, and 6 weeks is a pretty short time. In the mean time, can you maybe stay with friends or family? I don't know what area of th country you are in, but I do know it's pretty damn cold in some parts - if you are near me, PM and I will help you find somewhere to go. That's pretty ******, but some men are jerks like that. You're not alone, you have your EP friends here. Good Luck hon and take care. ~L Rated: +1Vote for this!
ladybelle	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM Get in contact with your local YWCA or call a domestic violence hotline! Rated: +1Vote for this!
Bananna	Posted Jan 14th, 2009 at 10:15PM I'm just trying to figure out what kind of an animal would do that to his pregnant wife...is the baby his? But that doesn't matter... I agree with the others go to a church or a YMCA. Sorry you're going through this. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Hoodiamom	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM Where are you now? Is there anyway you can just stay there? If it has only been 6 weeks and you are having these kind of problems then maybe it is better for you to start your life over now then wait 5 or 10 years into the marriage. You have that child to think about it. Like they said there are shelters out there. Good Luck. Rated: +1Vote for this!
chanceNaodhan	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM I know the feeling, in a way. Luckily I was able to go to my parents. If you cant go to your parents or a friend, a local church is a good place, they can help you. Also, check out your social services office, they might be able to help you with getting housing or point you in the right direction. It might be a blessing in disguise that this happened before your child was born. Please take care. Rated: +1Vote for this!
lunnas	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM wow hunny moon went fast wow he cant kick you out thats crazy, is he on drugs? do you have a church to go to, i dont know what state you live in . try churches if you dont have family try going to a police station they can help you get into a womens shelter. good luck iam praying for you let us know if your ok. you have friends here iam karla Rated: +1Vote for this!
CPAguy	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM Call family first. Then, domestic violence hotline as domestic violience shelters should take you in and get you plugged in with an attorney. Then check with local churches. Worst case, check with homeless shelters. Places like Salvation Army might be able to give you vouchers for hotel. Call social services right away and start a case file.....they can probably get emergency WIC, foodstamps. Please take Care! Rated: +1Vote for this!
rdt	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM What kind of idot does this kid of ****? Rated: +1Vote for this!
biscuits	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM I had an employee who went to a home for unwed mothers. I did not know that places like that still existed. Anyway, she had nothing, really. And they taught her how to do things while she was there & I think she had some kind of work with them. It all worked out & she had good care & a beautiful baby. The dad finally took her in after the baby was born. (i don't think she should be with him- but-oh well. a leopard just does not change his spots) Rated: +1Vote for this!
thirty30	Posted Jan 15th, 2009 at 12:04PM call your local united way. they will help you get any assistance you may need. while hideousbeasts idea is amusing, i wouldn't recommend it unless he has actually been abusive to you. if he can show that there's no reason to think he has, the court will look down on you, pregnant or not, you could get in serious trouble. the guy sounds like a jackass. good luck to you & your baby. Rated: +1Vote for this!
levin60kitty	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM First, see a lawyer (some will take your case on a contingency fee - you pay after the bum-husband of yours is sentenced by the judge to pay. Call your county health services and DHR. They will point you in the right direction and see that you and your child get health care. Good luck. I hope they make that bum pay through the nose. Rated: +1Vote for this!
MrsIcb4rP	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM well i don't know your story so i'm just gonna go with the basics. start with a plan & a back up plan for the plan. plan A: since i am always pro people working their bs out in their relationships i say talk with husband because although it seems like he's a total tool maybe he's just immature & it can work out. if not then you move on to your.... plan B: look for a lawyer so you can file for divorce. if you have friends/family that are supportive, seek them out explain to them your situation & what your plan is. also look into your local department of human assistance so you can apply for services like aid, housing, medical, food & job searching. there are also church & community non-profit organizations that can assist with these services as well. Rated: +1Vote for this!
dianaspy5	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM Be strong sweety............... do it for your baby's and yourself............... dont let a stupid ignorant human put you down..... Now its the time to get up, with your head up high and do something. Act smart....... you came for advice to the right place................everyone here is here to help, listen to there advice....... dont be afraid..................you are not the only one.........and you are also not the only one who will also get through this....I know it seems as if you lost.....but that is not true.........YOU ARE THE WINNER HERE....... REMEMBER THAT............. You will be okay, just show him you will not let him ruin you, instead he has made you strong..............strong for your children....................strong enough for you not to allow another bastard mess with your heart/head again...... Lots of hugs..........Diana.... Good Luck! Rated: +1Vote for this!
sothisisme	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM i would see a lawyer... and in some states you can sue him for fraud and thats if you gave up a job and place to be with him....its different state to state... in the mean time try and see if friends /fam can help you out and then if that doesnt work a shelter .. and no he cant kick you out he hasnt given you proper notice and you're married not a roommate... but you might not want to deal with all the crap because it could be dangerous to live with this nut bag... i would see a lawyer stay some where else and sue the **** out of him for child support!!!!!! your better off anyway and then when you are able to work you will have your own way of making it and still be able to give your child what they need with this dirt bags money! Rated: +1Vote for this!
mzdivine	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM Great Start wasn't it! What a hopeless piece of **** he is!( Only way to describe this low life) approach the Salvation Army first, They can possibly help with accomodation. Family? Good Luck!! Rated: +1Vote for this!
elfknight	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM If you have a credit card than you can get a motel room right now so that's the first thing that you should be doing. After that, I'd call friends, family, the churches and your city welfare office. You should be able to get some kind emergency assistance within a day. I would hope that this guy would give you some money to tide you over. Although he seems like a real scumbag for putting you in this situation. Nevertheless, just move on. Don't even waste your time lying to authorities and getting into a legal battle with this jerk. Beyond making him pay child support, fighting him legally just isn't worth it. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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