I am not a very attractive person but i feel lonely. how do i get a boyfriend?

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Look for a friend first. Then boy-friend will develop on it's own terms.

As for attractive - here's a true story for you. There was a girl in my class in highschool- we'll call her Emma - Emma was really smart, kind of blah in appearance, shy and bookish.

15 years after graduation I was working at a client's site and saw a name in the internal phone book. It was Emma's name, so I called her and sure enough it was her. I arranged to meet for coffee - figured it was a nice thing to do for a nice person - to show interest in how her life had gone.

So, comes the day of the coffee, and into the cafe walks this beautiful woman, poised, smiling, open, I was blown away! I just kept staring at her. As she described her life I realized she had blossomed into her own after highschool and now she had a wonderful life with her fiance and a future with no limits.

The moral? Give yourself time. The future holds far more than you or I can guess. Focus on becoming the best you you can, be comfortable with you, follow the things you love without apologizing, and open yourself to others.

Learn to extend your hand freely and with confidnce and many others will be over-joyed at the chance to take that hand in theirs.

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OublietteMindCont rol	Posted Jun 10th, 2009 at 11:12PM It's been my experience, you are only as attractive as you feel, in the long run. If your attitude is that you are unattractive, others will read that and not be interested. For years, I have felt ugly, and was ignored as a result. But I began to change my attitude about myself, and realized I am an attractive person, in so many ways, and I am worth being treated like a queen. I have had much better luck with people. It's all on how you feel about yourself. It does take time and practice, but the better you feel, the more positive attention you will get. Look at qualities about yourself that you feel confident and proud of, and tell yourself you are worth it. Those things on the inside are more important anyway, and others will notice them. Rated: +6Vote for this!
cheesecowboy	Posted Jun 10th, 2009 at 11:14PM Quit worrying about looks...men don't get enough credit for simply liking a woman beyond her looks...a woman who is confident and adventerous and yes, a bit aggressive can turn plenty of heads...really, men like to be pursude as much as you. Rated: +3Vote for this!
Fourandahalfdays	Posted Jun 10th, 2009 at 11:14PM By being yourself and not placing so much emphasis on looks you can find someone who really likes you for you and not just for looks. Rated: +3Vote for this!
DreamWizard	Posted Jun 10th, 2009 at 11:14PM 1) Do what you can to be and look healthy. Most people achieve looking good by just accepting those natural attributes that you were born with and implementing a healthy lifestyle. A good cut and some highlights can add depth to your hair, however, many girls hate their hair and s either "straighten" or "curl" it with harsh chemicals. After time, their once beautiful natural hair becomes fried. Whatever GOD gave is usually beautiful in it's natural state when healthy. 2) Love Yourself. It's shows through your personality. 3) Take up a hobby. You will seem more interesting and perhaps you will meet someone with similar interests. Rated: +3Vote for this!
hurldog	Posted Jun 10th, 2009 at 6:13PM Talk to people. Looks matter, but a pleasant personality will widen your social circle. More friends = more dates. Rated: +2Vote for this!
pukirahe	Posted Jun 10th, 2009 at 11:15PM Make yourself spiritually attractive. Work hard in some charitable organizations, lots of people will beg for your friendship. Rated: +2Vote for this!
terrygerry	Posted Jun 10th, 2009 at 11:16PM What makes you think you are not attractive? List those reasons. Work on them one at a time. Ask for help from your friends. A new hairdo can make a big change. Try just a little makeup. Don't overdo it. Your girlfriends should be able to help you meet some guys. Be nice. Don't appear too easy or desperate. Ask questions about him. Don't talk too much about yourself; that makes you appear obnoxious and uninterested in anyone else. Rated: +2Vote for this!
Roadshark	Posted Jun 10th, 2009 at 5:47PM What I realize now is I spend way too much years worrying about my weight. Really its a waste of time, people don't think about you as much as you think they do! Everyone is insincere about something about themselves. Rated: +1Vote for this!
c8lorraine	Posted Jun 10th, 2009 at 5:56PM Why introduce worry, grief, pain,saddness, into your life? embrace the fact you don't , and enjoy life Rated: +1Vote for this!
freeflowing	Posted Jun 10th, 2009 at 6:54PM beauty is in the eye of the beholder. if jayz can marry beyonce and biggie smalls had some kids there is no excuse for anybody. its all about your persona. work on that and you'll have to beat them (guys or girls) off with a stick. Rated: +1Vote for this!
masomenos56	Posted Jun 10th, 2009 at 9:36PM I agree with all that submitted. Ditto. Good Luck. There is always someone for each of us. Rated: +1Vote for this!
gowler	Posted Jun 11th, 2009 at 6:47AM if you find a guy you like you need to treat him like he is important to you. remember the small things like his birthday and other events that are special to him. more than once I've broken up with a more attractive woman for some one who was more sincere and fun to be with. don't be to intrusive, but if you find a guy you'd like to get to know learn as much ad you can about him and what he likes, let him know you are interested in him by asking about things he likes, ask about his favorite football team. show him how good you are on the inside and your others strengths, are you a good cook? like to play sports? if so get him in the kitchen or on a mountain-biking trail where your talents will shine. Rated: +1Vote for this!
heavyduty1	Posted Jun 11th, 2009 at 7:28AM Start by feeling attractive. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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