Figure out what you need to do in order to not disappoint yourself. Then do it. You are the only person in this world you need to impress.

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Hi Roxy. Why do you describe yourself as a disappointment? Who told you that you were a disappointment? <br />
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Are you disappointed in yourself? <br />
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You are a young woman; at your age, you have more experience being a child, than years being an adult.<br />
One does not magically become a mature adult when they reach 21. Adulthood has many, many phases, and well all spend many years practicing it until we get it right. (Even then, we older adults still<br />
need to keep learning and adjusting ourselves. That's not a bad thing. Life involves constant adaptation)<br />
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I wonder if you are feeling pressured by family, who are exerting their wants and expectations onto you. Parents especially can still treat their young adult kids.....too much like kids<br />
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What kind of person do you want to be Roxy? Educated, kind, adventurous, stable, or what? What do you hope to contribute to the world? What do you love?<br />
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I suggest you get to know yourself - without any undue influence from others in your life. You are now old enough to be the driver of your life, but it takes time and practice to get used to this responsibility.<br />
This means being responsible for your life...becoming as financially independent as possible, setting goals, finding a way to meet those goals, learning how to be respectful and assertive in your relationships.<br />
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It is now your job to create the life you want. If the others in your life don't agree with your choices, that's unfortunate, but they owe you the same regard as should give any other adult. It is not your job to please them. Let me repeat that: It is not your job to please them. Love them, respect them; but you do not owe them the power to command where your life should go.<br />
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One day, your life will be over. I hope you are old and gray when it happens, and I hope you will<br />
be proud of the life you created for yourself.<br />
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Now, go out there young woman, and starting creating what you want!

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Hi , I like your comment alot ! Yes I'm 23, you say iv no experience as a adult , il have you know i do ! Here's why
1: when I was three my mother died
2: when I was 15 my step
Mother died
3 : from age of 3 - 23 I was abused by my family emotionally mentally etc
4: iv been stabbed and put into a come for a week
5: iv had cancer twice
6: I grew up with no family and what was known to me as a family abused me daily
7: my childhood was taken away from me at age of 14!
So I'm fact I'm very much well aware of been a adult, dealing with all this I had to deal with feelings etc I never enjoyed my childhood , it's the other way around I was
Never a kid when I should of been , iv been tested over and over again and yes some days I'm
Good but I don't feel good enough as a person due to what my family have done
To me , iv cut all contact with them since about 3 weeks ago, iv finally got freedom even
Though I'm broke lol but il get a Job soon , it's all very challenging but I think we all start off like this ! I just don't know why my family have taken so much of my life from me

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Roxy, I'm going to send you a message....more private that way.

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It involves a desire to see your negatives to disappear. You can work on your mental state with positive thinking and what ever it takes to improve yourself in life. It is a life long goal if you want it to be.<br />
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Anything is possible! Thanks for the question.

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find hope and faith in yourself. go to a therapist if you have deep rooted issues or mental illness.

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Say I Love You to yourself many times a day!

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Find friends that are bigger disappointments.....

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Most people feel that they are not the person they should be.....I think that is the source of ambition in all of us.

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The power of happiness and change is in your own heart, you need no one elses approval to be happy and love yourself.

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you look quite sexy so if you give me your address i'll be round and help you change any time lol mmmm

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I am calling creepy troll on that one.

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