I am single. I like not to be touched. Why are men so bent on physical contact, I thought they were visual?

I am single and sometimes go online and surf for the sake of boredom and I get a lot of requests from men that are also not interested in relationships but are interested in physical sexual relationships, asking if I may allow a stranger I do not know to go down on me, to touch me, asking me to give blow jobs lol and I can't wrap my mind around it because I am not a lady of the evening LOL

How do some of these women also submit to a man's way? And why? it's so quick and meaningless...doesn't that matter to a person? I wouldn't be able to sell myself because I'd cry halfway through a hand job or lay hahaha. These aren't the dating kind of men...apparently they don't want to date...ugh!

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The fact of the matter is that there are so many trashy women out there who do this. Men have grown to expect
it. I have personally frequented one single bar for years and watched different women leave the bar with different men every week. Most women now adays don't even deserve to be treated like a lady. However if a man is lucky enough to find a woman who even wants a serious loyal relationship with only one partner. He should grab the little treasure an keep her before some other guy sweet talks her and then uses and abuses her and screws her up for all the rest of the decent guys out here. I have met so many women that didn't even know how to have a real and meaningful relationship anymore, because so many men before me mis-treated them. Most women you meet these days are all messed up in the head because of what other un caring, and selfish men have done to them. Boyfriends, uncles, brothers, and even dads. Most men have forgotten that a woman used to be treated, well women have forgotten to. But my opinion is a woman is a fragile, gentle, careing, loveing being, and if treated like a woman should be, will stay that way. But men have turned women into untrusting, un-commiting, confused, resentful beasts. You sound like you may be one of those treasures. I think you should just keep waiting until mister right comes along. I'm sure he eventually will. But in the mean time avoid any men who your not 100% sure of right from the start, don't let other men ruin you before you find the right one. I believe when you find the right person you know. As long as your not a desperate danzel in distress. Take Care, Have Patience, and demand patience. And most of all GOOD LUCK

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CorneaGenii	Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 11:16AM It's ingrained. It's biological. The whole point of male-female relationships is, ideally, procreation. Unless you'd rather go with a turkey baster and a ***** bank, physical contact is, um, necessary. The rest of it...love, relationships, dating, marriage...that's just the whole structure our big squishy brains have built around this simple little biological fact. Rated: +3Vote for this!
2nice	Posted Sep 10th, 2009 at 4:09PM We are all physical beings. Most of us want someone to be close to in a physical way...men often for different reasons than women (but not always). For a lot of men, it's for their appetite for sex. It's by design! If men didn't want sex, our species may not procreate. If it wasn't for that instinct, men would not seek out women and we would spend our days fishing and hunting and wouldn't even bother coming home at night. Men's arousal often starts visually but their carnal needs are physical. For women it's the need to be loved, accepted and feeling safe. Most women to crave to be touched, but they most often need to have their other needs met first. Aside from the obvious design, there are exceptions and exagerations to the norm. Most of us are damaged in some way, and some obviously more damaged than others. Some men don't want sex, some women don't want to be loved, some men will have sex with anything, and some women want to be loved so bad, they'll have sex with anyone. Rated: +3Vote for this!
Shoreboy	Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 11:16AM Then quite honestly if you don't like to be touched physically I pity whatever man ends up trying to become your 'mate'. Not just from a procreation or even sex perspective but physical intimacy (hugging, kissing, stroking someone's skin on the back of their neck, whatever) is a VITAL part of a successful and healthy adult 'romantic' relationship. As to men being 'visual' we are more 'visual' then women are when it comes to initial attraction, but as several have stated that doesn't equate to a relationship. Once that happens we become less 'visual' and more involved in the other aspects of you. Rated: +2Vote for this!
RandomODNer	Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 9:06AM visual first, then they go on a date and see the mental aspects, then they get physical Rated: +1Vote for this!
unicorn59	Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 9:13AM There are a lot of pervs on the internet....You seem unlucky enough to meet several of them....Ugh, is right! Rated: +1Vote for this!
dedre	Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 9:20AM Wow, you presume a lady of the night is always so "quick and meaningless", then you're just not on the right level as those guys seeking you. Two of my most memorable times were with a woman of the night, and the other a woman where we both knew it wouldn't last. Meaning doesn't necessarily have to denote "long-term endearment" or "timeless conviction" or anything like that, sometimes you just have to enjoy what you have and only for as long as you can, then move on. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Marriedbutlonely	Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 10:06AM I too feel syspathy for whoever you wind up trapping in what will be a sexless relationship, Go to a convent and spare the males of the species this agony.. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Fourandahalfdays	Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 10:27AM Not wanting to be touched physically would be a real problem for most. Lets face it, men like sex. Not all men are so forward about it like the ones you meet on the internet. Rated: +1Vote for this!
koyptakh	Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 11:56AM Hi LostCocoa I think I understand you to mean in RL not on ep. I am new to ep and have no such experience of what you say. In RL like to know a woman and feel this takes time. I guess it depends on the man. Certainly sex is not a service to be performed. How odd and how sad to aim so low! I think men in general are "visual" but this is a precursor to sex not an end in itself. This is why it is said women dress provocatively and invited sexual approaches. To men sexually stimulating visual signals are an invitation to touch. Social custom and law has controlled this without consent from the woman but maybe this is breaking down from what you say. :) Rated: +1Vote for this!
james1951	Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 12:16PM Why does a dog hump your leg? It feels good! go here http://74.125.95.132/search?q=cache:yLnbEwc0WpkJ:www.hisandherhealth.com/diseases-conditions/intimacy-relationships/book-excerpt-the-science-of-****.html+release+of+****+men&cd=10&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=ca Rated: +1Vote for this!

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