When your not happy how do expect kids to be happy. They sense everything your suppose set an example of what a healthy relationship is. But it sounds like yours is not healthy especially when unhappy. Sorry your going through this but if you know deep down there will be no change then time to make a change yourself. You can still be a parent.
The kid(s) will pick up on your unhappiness, and you wouldn't be doing anyone (including yourself) any favors by staying. If you know in your heart you have given it your best, then it's time to move on. Sorry to hear you are struggling with this...
Your son will ALWAYS be your son. Speaking from experience, especially at his age, he can see your unhappiness in the marriage.
You have only one life and if you can't fix what you are in, probably time to end it. Not find another first, but just end it.
In time you will meet another, be happy and your son will be happy for you!
cant you get out of the marriage and just see your sons more often?
Mitchell... inner voices are guides by angels. It will be a warm feel in your heart even though logic says no. Listen to them
This is a little complicated indeed and a whirl of things going on. It feels dare I say like your wife wants to stay in the marriage but you do not. Since its been unhappy since day one, it may well be time to walk. But under the current situation with the adoption it changes all dynamics.
My friend stayed with her husband for ten years too long and personally I told her it wasn't right, but she has to do what she thinks best naturally and she did stay longer.
There is no escape from sadness on this one dude, and wish I could have been more help too x
You are married to your son and making him bear responsibility for your misery.