I wouldn't wander too off the beaten path. She's your wife and is asking you to respect some of her boundaries. She obivously cares more about you then just being an F partner. One night stands are not romantic, they are just lusty desire.<br />
Can ya'll do a pretend hour and then you can get your rocks off too.<br />
Pretend she has multiple personalities. Your wife is the nice, mature one, and her other side is a ****. When the **** comes out, enjoy it, but don't disrespect your wife afterwards. That way you can have your cake and eat it too.<br />
Oh and listen to the song "Volvo Driving Soccer Mom" by Everclear.