I am worried about my boyfriend changing once he has been put through bootcamp...did yours?

Well, of course he will change. The true question should be "will he change in a way that makes him not what I fell in love with?"
And the answer to that is no.
It simply is not possible to have a person "not change" while you grow with them. He has to change to grow, and for all of the things that I did not like about boot camp, it put into me things that were ABSOLUTELY necessary to be able to have a relationship. He is going to be torn down to ABSOLUTELY nothing....and then rebuilt. But what it is of him that makes him WHO he is does not come out., it is simply polished a bit.
I am not saying that he may or may not be the person you want to continue with, and he may decide he has other priorities too, but that would be the same of any job, or school, or religious epiphany, and boot camp is no different.
I think you will be pleasantly surprised by what comes out of boot camp. Yes, its different, but it is a difference that exemplifies qualities you already knew and gave him the ability to back it up with the ability to use it in a way that provides for others while providing for himself.

Of course it's gonna change him! It is going to make him strong and disciplined or bitter and mean depending on the kind of character he has. Only you know what he is like- but whatever it is good or bad it will bring shape to it and bring out the very bottom line truth of who he is.

They always change a lil i think even after every deployment but we gotta think of everything they are having to go through putting their lives on the line every day and ******* on the devil as my hubby calls it every day in that hell hole sandbox. Of course, its gonna change them. But we just gotta realize that and realize that we have to be there to help and support them no matter what. some change more than others sometimes not always in a good way but if ur strong enough to be there with them through the good times as well as the bad ones. Theres a book u can read about life after deployment even though ur boyfriend is just going thru bootcamp im sure this book will still help u. The book is called "Life After Deployment" by Karen M. Pavlicin. It also offers plenty of other books and websites as well as organizations to help u better understand what ur boyfriend is going thru as well as urself and help both of yall cope with it. By the way, my husband is a marine and is going on his 2nd deployment in january and this book as well as others have helped me a great deal with the changes and experiences he is going thru. Good Luck and Best Wishes!

My boyfriend hasn't gotten out of boot camp yet, but he is in his last week there ( in this week he gets more phone calls, so I'm not just relying on letters) and I haven't seen him yet so I may not completely know, but from what I have seen he is much more mature, and he understands the value of our relationship more now, and apprieciates me a lot more! I really think our relationship has grown for the better since he left, and I understand our relationship better because he has been gone. I think it was a good change. I don't know if you will have the same experience but that is mine. I wish you the best of luck, and I understand how confussing this time is for you and all the questions you have, but I would get his recruiters number and call him, my boyfriends recruiter was a big help, and helped me through the first few weeks with out him, and answered all me questions, about everything!! Write him a lot and don't worry about venting on him about being depressed, it's part of a relationship. GOOD LUCK!! I was there 2 months ago!