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I asked my husband of 20 years to move out but he said no. I feel guilty but cant go on w/him. What do I do?
Posted 1 month ago
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Ok, my first instinct was to tell you, just move out yourself. You cannot force him out of his house, but he cannot stop you from leaving. However, I should warn you that, if you have children, and you choose to leave the home. Most states have child abandonment laws that could leave you with little hope of winning a custody battle. So, you need to take that into consideration. If there is some kind of abuse taking place, you may be able to have him removed from the home, short of that, you have a difficult and complicated situation on your hands and you will need to work with him to come to some sort of reasonable agreement.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 2:24PM
After he's sound asleep, set fire to the bed.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 2:23PM
First I would make sure ending your marriage is really what you want and then if it is I would sit down and tell him that you guys are over and you don't want to be with him any more and that you would like him to move out and if he still refuses then you should move out if you really can't be with him any more move out. If you do have kids decide what is best for them make sure you have a suitable place to take them.And after all this is not just his house you are married this is your house too if you own then split things in court if you go this far if you rent just find yourself somewhere else to rent think of it as starting fresh with nothing holding you back.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 3:56PM
You leave!! I left the house my ex and I bought and now am fighting to get it back or at least my half. It is a battle but be careful because if his name as well as yours in on the mortgage he can legally enter the home whenever he pleases. You can't change the locks on the house either if he does leave because it is considered community property. Contact a lawyer if this is really what you want......good luck!
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 4:19PM
I don't think him leaving is right if you are the one wanting the marraige over. So you cut your losses or come up with a fair divorce agreement and find your way elsewhere. Have all your ducks in a row before you split up.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 4:36PM
Try evicting him. I would call a lawyer look for one that gives a free 1 hour console. Good-luck
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 10:50PM
i dont think he lshould eave when you are the one who wants out...unless you are the one who pays the bills otherwise you should leave
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Posted Nov 14th, 2008 at 2:40AM
Divorce him.
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Posted Nov 16th, 2008 at 6:02PM
Yeah, join the club...
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