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I broke off a friendship with a plutonic friend after he hurt my feelings, should I ever call him again?
Posted 1 month ago
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The difficult truth is that friends hurt each other sometimes. They may not mean to,but sometimes somebody gets the wrong end of the stick.

It's awkward,but someone needs to make the first move. Your feelings may be very badly hurt,depending what was said or done. He may not know just how upset you are. If he does,he may feel bad,and not know exactly what to say or do to make it right.

If a friend who knows you both could act as intermediary that might help to overcome the discomfort factor. It would be awful to lose a friend,platonic or otherwise,if it could be avoided.
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Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 10:19AM
Getting hurt is part of your life experience and his.
Call him up and settle your differences!!!
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Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 1:34PM
You failed to state how he hurt your feelings.
That is what needs to be known before anyone can give you an intelligent answer.
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Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 6:44PM
I have to agree with Elfinsong. I do not know if I would go back to someone who has really hurt my feelings, depending on the situation at hant. I recently had something similar happen with a good girlfriend of mine. I attempted to settle it between the two of us, but her approach at coming back to me was just as hurtful as the initial way she hurt my feelings. It really depends on the situation, IMHO...There's a saying, Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. While I agree that life's too short, and great friends are hard to find, it's also hard to know if he's gonna do this again. You have to figure out if you can trust him not to hurt you again, and if a dialogue can really, truly be opened up between the two of you. Do you want to be the one to open the door or not? Sometimes moving on and not looking back really IS the best solution.
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Posted Nov 20th, 2008 at 10:49PM
Of course. If all he did was hurt your feelings then this is part of the learning to be friends process. I am not minimizing what he did or the hurt he caused you- but people grow in character, and as long as you can talk to him honestly about it, then it gives him a chance to learn more about himself and to gain relationship skills.

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Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 12:40AM
Yes, but make him suffer for a couple of weeks first.
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Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 2:19AM
Do you have a way of calling Pluto? I'll bet the charges for that are out of this world!
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Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 7:35AM
I would give him a second chance. We all makes mistakes. The trust will take a while to build but you both need to honest and respect each others feelings. Was he aware he hurt your feelings? Good luck
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Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 7:43AM
It is your decision to make. I would go back in a heartbeat if it were my decision to make. True friends are hard to come by and if he was a good friend other than the one faux pa don't you think he deserves another chance?

A little advice however if you do go back. Explain to him why you were upset, give him a chance to tell you he is sorry or explain why he did whatever he did to hurt your feelings and then let it go. Guys, more so than us women, do not like rehashing feelings and if you can't let it go you will kill the friendship. Be ready to let it go after that one conversation.
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Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 8:59AM
You only have so many "true" friends don't lose one over something that you to could work out, Good-luck
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Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 10:22AM
Ignore him forever. Be miserable the rest of your life.

Of course you should call him. Be honest in a kind way. Life is too short and death is too long to carry resentment around.
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Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 4:59PM
NO! Long-distance calls to Pluto are really expensive.
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