Melisa, allow me to share this with you. When you came into this relationship with him. What did you hope for? Your aspirations about the relationship and what level did you think it would have gone?
The point is, I don't believe that you went into this with the intentions of being mistreated and how badly he treated you. So you see, it wasn't you that allowed it. You have to remember that you always deserve better than that and stop hating yourself. It isn't going to help make it any better and it will stall you to that point without moving on.
Start looking for the person you were before this all happened. Remember to love yourself and again. I think once you do find that Melisa from the beginning, you will be far more happier.
welcome to the circle and good luck
You need to start valuing yourself, and wanting better for yourself. Knowing that you are better and you deserve better. Take this as a learning lesson and next time look out for warning signs in guys. Google red flag warning signs in dating relationships.
Get a new hobby, join the gym, hang out with friends and your self esteem will come back, and this in time will be a distant reminder. We all make mistakes in life, but it also makes us stronger.
roll one up and smoke it. then, find a guy that knows how to treat a lady right :)
despite these events, acknowledge that life is unfolding as it was intended to, and be at peace with yourself. accept that fact that his actions, and the actions of others, are beyond your control. go forward with confidence knowing you are in charge of your destiny and cannot be influenced by vexatious and malicious intentions of others. remember: you are a child of this universe, you belong here, and you have the right to be happy. strive to be happy.
What did he do to you that was so bad?
Realize that you are stronger for having went through what you did. Use that as motivation to expect the best for yourself.
The path to getting over what he's done to you starts with feeling that you're worthy of being treated with respect and dignity. Once you've accepted that as fact, you won't accept any future mistreatment from him. Part of the reason you're allowing yourself to be treated badly may be that perhaps you feel that you've done something bad to warrant that treatment. I held this faulty set of beliefs myself for years until I was able to change it.
Promise yourself that you wont let it happen again.
Then start teaching yourself what the signs are to watch for...get educated.
Learn to trust your instinct. Remember practice makes us wiser.
some times the signs aren't there water dragon. The idea is t be more wise and choosier of whom you spend your time with.
She didn't let it happen, it happen because of what he did, not what she expected
Once and old wise Confucious told that we are not down by our experiences themselves but the values we put to those experiences..
With a little help from your friends.