So does he like "your" own children or are you jealous of this little child<br />
Marriage is a package deal you dont pick and choose when you get married with luggage
Marriage shouldn't happen unless both people are 100% sure what they are getting into and what they are dealing with...
If a child MAY be an issue in the relationship, then DISCIPLINE should be taught, or some kind of RULING should be made...
otherwise, it is an UNFAIR relationship...
Hold on Ned...
She's being honest and seeking answers to help her deal with this issue
I strongly suggest that you seek family therapy as quickly as you can, and discuss your feelings, and seek suggestions from the therapist on ways to cope with the child, and try to learn positive things you can do to bring her more into your family fold, which is the ideal solution.
treat her with love and the same as you would your own children. its hard enough with her mom being on drugs, her dad getting into another relationship seeing other kids around she is a step sibling to a new baby on the way. its pretty chaotic.
Ok you have some really good answers here..<br />
and some not so good ones.<br />
You are having a hard time coping with all thats on your plate.<br />
She is one confused little girl who hasn't got the skills to work<br />
out whats going on in her little heart.Take pity on her and try<br />
to understand her.<br />
Your husband needs to step up and set rules for your home.<br />
Treat her the way you would want your children to be treated<br />
if the were in the same spot.
thats why I swear that I don't wanna be a step mom coz I know that I wouldn't be able to give real love for the child from previous relationships...
my advice..you need to learn some coping skills..ASAP...she'll be around for a long time. Try to remember...a child behaviour is a product of someone else. Maybe you can work on cementing some type of bond with her.
I've seen this happen to many couples and such...<br />
Honestly, all I can tell you is to deal with it... or get a new husband/boyfriend/ect...<br />
Cause abandoning the child all together is wrong...<br />
But ignoring your problem is also wrong...<br />
Depending on what state you live in, spanking is a good way to solve many problems..<br />
Also proper discipline will teach the brat some manners...<br />
If the child refuses to listen to you while he/she is in your house or whatever...<br />
Then I suggest putting he/she in an EMPTY room, or tying the child up to a chair...<br />
Make sure the child isn't tied up too tight, for that could result in injuries...<br />
I too have a problem with children being annoying at times...<br />
But if the LOGICAL answers will not solve the problem...<br />
Then sometimes it's best to do something ILLOGICAL<br />
Either way,<br />
Good Luck!<br />
lmao..tie the child up? Wouldn't handcuffs be easier....j/k
I have a smiliar issue except we are not married and we onoy had her every other weekend. Until october 2013 her mother was found to be addicted to heroin and she was given to her mothers mofor foster. My babys father which we have a 6 month old together decided he was going to get his daughter went down to cps and ever since than I've had to move out with my new baby in fear of cps because they are drug testing him and checking out his home and any persons I suppose under it . But the real problem is my daughter misses out on her father because of all this and I miss out on my partner . On top of it cps still wants to ask me questions even tho we don't live together about his issues and his daughter . And they have yet to go to his house or interview any other persons under the roof or even ask . In addition this five yr olr of his always takes my daughters blankets wants to play with her baby toys rather than her age appropriate toys only when I'm around with the baby . She is a huge brat and has said before while I was pregnant u still lost ve me the best dad don't you and I'm going to have better things than the baby always . And it drives me nuts . He dsnt discipline her she crys over not getting a soda r any minor thing she always asks her dad to carry her like the baby and than he never carrys our child she constantly gets her way and isn't told any different everytime we kis she starts yelling and when he is playing with the baby she will literally get in my babys face and his . On top of everything she's caused fights between us and she is a bad influence constantly talks about how she wants to wear makeup everyday and has even taken mine to put on . And her father thinks its funny when I tell her you way to young she wants to be a teenager but than wants her dad to put her in a stroller or sit in my kids car seat or have a bottle cuz he's making the baby one . She always talks about having a boyfriend already and she's just a bad seed doesn't do anything productive besides want to wear make up high heels and wants my things but wants us to treat her as a baby also . Its exhauglsting . I don't know how to tell my bt whom has asked me to marry him that I I just couldn't live FULL TIME with his kid and raise mine how I want to .