I cheated on my bf several times with my ex bf. The last time i made a promise to God that if i did it again?

You seriously need to figure out what you want before you start playing with these guys hearts. They can get hurt too, you know.

If you are one who knows God, then you know how he feels about cheating. You need to tell your boyfriend, or God will find a way to make sure he knows. Don't be scum....anymore that is.

Well, you sound selfish. You'll probably have it happen to you.

Grow up....and don't be in any relationship, until you do....it's not fair to anyone involved.....

Make up your mind or be single until you grow up some. You know that these are PEOPLE that you are dealing with right?

Love the one you are with! There is obviously a reason why you split from the other in the first place! You cant and should not live 2 seperate lives, it unhealthy and someone is likely to get hurt. The reason you are with the new love is more important, if its not right you should end them both and start a fresh with someone new! Good luck!

I think you really do know what you want. You would only "cheat" because you are not happy with the current boyfriend. Either be honest with him and tell him what is missing for you and give him a chance to make his decision on whether or not you and him should continue in this relationship. It is time to grow up some more. Don't hold on to someone just because you are afraid you'll never find the right guy. That goes for the ex boyfriend too. You are holding on to both guys as a safety net so you wont be alone. my $0.02.

you owe it to him to come clean. i wonder why you are having trouble having compassion for him, his heart, his experience? he is a person with hopes and feelings, just like you.

the funny thing about cheating is that a cheater often doesn't realize that not only are they hurting an innocent person, they are undermining their own sense of trust and well-being at the same time. you think that this won't have consequences down the road? i urge you to think again. you are going to start having trouble putting your own trust in people because of what you are doing. not only that, but you are breaking your own promise to yourself and the promise that you made to "God".

i wish you peace when you make a compassionate decision. i hope that you take my comment with the goodwill that i intended.

Your problem is that you are caught between two lovers. You are the common denominator in this equation and you need to factor in how you see your future. By looking into the future the answer will come to you in such a clear matter that you will be replying to me and thanking me. I'll answer now, You are welcome.

was tempted to throw in a REALLY mean word. but it's okay i guess. after they wake up. they'll screw with other girls feelings as a revenge, and there it goes the continuous male-female war.
If you tell your friend what you did, he'll leave. If you continue, you will eventually be caught. All you can do is live with the guilt, and stop cheating around. But i guess you're still young and you'll do a lot more until finally stop to one guy.

I think you should stop cheating. Pretend that your boyfriend is with you at all times so you won't cheat. You want a reputation for being a lady who is committed and loyal.

I've been in this boat and it's not fun... to me it was that I just couldn't decide because they were both great and I didn't want to make a mistake. I couldn't decide, and I ended up losing them both. In the long run, I found that it wasn't right with either one of them, and that's why I was cheating.

Even though you've come clean with him and worked it out for now, you're going to do it again. You're playing life as act as you want when you want, and ask for forgiveness later, and that isn't healthy for anyone involved. End it with both, and be single for a while. You obviously need to figure out what you want in a partner, and you need to do that on your own time, and not hurt anyone in the process.

Look up the lyrics to "Savior" by Rise Against.... I felt it described this situation to a "T"

You shouldn't be with this new bf if you still have feelings for your old bf. Your just stringing the guy along because you want extracarriculars with your old bf but want the new one as a back up.